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  • Sep 18, 2010, 05:13 AM
    pfftt
    Rebound?
    Well. I've liked this boy for a while and we were going to go out when he suddenly said it wouldn't work. I was heartbroken but decided I was going to move on. Then about a week later he had a girlfriend which meant he'd been 'seeing her' at the same time otherwise how could he be in love. I was convinced I was over him and was genuinely happy for him. Then they broke up because she cheated on him. We met up Him and me and my friends and I got confused and it was obvious I wasn't over him. About a week later he texted me saying he knew I still felt for him and that he felt the same way and he loves me. But the thing is he really really liked the girl he was going out with. When they broke up he attempted suicide and ended up in hospital. Now he's saying he loves me and wants to be with me. I'm still in love with him but I don't want to be a rebound girl. I don't want him out of my life either. His relationship status on Facebook says he's 'married' to her. Hmm. Am I a rebound girl?
  • Sep 18, 2010, 05:20 AM
    kaka67
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by pfftt View Post
    he attempted suicide and ended up in hospital. now he's saying he loves me and wants to be with me.

    I would run a million miles from this guy... Sounds like he's got some issues that he needs to deal with rather that dragging an innocent party (yes you) into his drama.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by pfftt View Post
    am i a rebound girl?

    Yes, you know you are.
  • Sep 18, 2010, 05:42 AM
    Devorameira

    Right now he just feels like he needs someone (rebound, yep!). The problem is that his neediness toward you will only continue until he finds someone else.

    Don't waste your time with him - you'll only get hurt in the end.
  • Sep 18, 2010, 10:56 AM
    talaniman

    Not only are you a rebound to a selfish fellow, but are so confused by your own feelings to see he is an unhealthy person, who needs a lot of help from professionals.

    He don't even like you that much, but you are letting him use you for his own selfish needs. Get him out of your life, and move on for real this time.
  • Sep 18, 2010, 03:59 PM
    Kitkat22

    This guy is trouble with a capitol T.
    Don't do it! Stay away from him.
    He doesn't love you.
  • Sep 21, 2010, 01:59 PM
    pfftt
    Thanks guys.
    Quote:

    but are so confused by your own feelings to see he is an unhealthy person
    Yes I agree.
    Quote:

    but you are letting him use you for his own selfish needs
    Everyone I know says I'm toooooo nice, I rather be the hurt one than let anyone else hurt. :( I like the guy but it's really unhealthy and I'm so unhappy. Going to take all this advice. Thanks
    Xx
  • Sep 21, 2010, 02:17 PM
    Enigma1999

    I agree with evryone else. I think you are wasting your time here. I do believe that you are a rebound. This guy seems to have issues much deeper than they appear.

    Your attitude should be, I would rather be alone then have someone who treats me this way.


    Don't waste any more time with him.

    Good luck.

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