I recently broke up with my girlfriend, the main problem was my drinking too much and she felt I chose drinking with my mates over her , I miss her and want to make things right again . I know I've hurt her in the past but I think I could make her happy again , should I contact her and try to get her back or leave her alone and let her get on wit her life

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Originally Posted by irishman2010

i think i could make her happy again

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Nice of you to "think" that but what are you actually doing to achieve this?

Have you got help for your drinking?

Until you actually give up the drinking and change yourself, there's no sense at all in contacting her.

Actions always speak much louder than words, so what actions have you been taking to straighten yourself out?

Leave her alone until you have solved the problems that broke you up. What's the point in wasting her time, and yours, with the same BS!!

I can understand her situation. Involved with someone who drinks constantly is like living on a roller coaster ride. If you can quit the booze, then I would say yes, and then you can be on the same page with her all the time. You have to prove to her, of course, that you can do it, if you love her enough and she loves you.

Tick

If you are still drinking, leave her alone.

I do been sticking to NC for now. Got to admit I misses her a lot and I am willing to make amends but unfortunately she got new guy over me. So, if you think there is still chance after you have changed then I say go for it. Otherwise, move on.

You need to stop the drinking for yourself not for her. You need to improve your way of life before you get into any relationship. Find what life has to offer you as a sober grown up man. In return only then will you know what you have to offer a woman in a relationship. Good luck