Yo hey guys, what's up? So. I "met" a girl, who is friends with one of my friends, I added her on Facebook and started taking to her on MSN, just a day, next day I asked her if she had plans for the weekend, so I could ask her out, but she does, good thing is she didn't figure out I was going to ask her out. So I asked if she could grab lunch sometime and she said next week is okay, then I asked her number and she gave it to me right away, that was a first for me. So now I'm planning to text her next week to see if she's available for lunch. Is it a good move? I'm tired of being so shy and wasting time trying to talk girls out only to get dumped after one month trying hard to win them. It's best to be descarted right away so I save some time, but that was not what happened and now I'm kind of excited about it.

Thank you guys. Bye bye.

Don't text her. Dude, that's lame. CALL her. Let her hear your voice.

I don't think she'll mind if you call and ask her about lunch. So far, so good, right?

Call instead of text.

Since it sounds like she is expecting a call, there should be no issue with calling her. If you get her voice mail, leave a message with your name and number when the best time to reach you would be. Don't make asking her out any more complicated than asking one of your friends if he wants to 'get a bite to eat'.

It time to take da next big step.. :) don't hog around.. just be comfortable in your own skin.. dats what girls like... and you smile a lot :)

Most women under 30 would rather text. Anyone older, you should call. So text first, then call.

Word of advice: make definite plans. When you ask her out to lunch say "how about lunch next Tuesday", don't say "sometime". Another tip I heard is schedule dates early in the week 'cause that's the most likely time they'll be free.

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Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

Most women under 30 would rather text. Anyone older, you should call. So text first, then call.

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I respectfully disagree. There is way too much miscommunication with texting.

I succumbed to the temptation of texting her , coudlnt call since I was in class. So I just texted that I saw her and she had a beutifull smile. She answered right away saying thank you and kisses. D: I'll call her first thing on Monday since I have a plans for the weekend and so does her I guess. Wish me luck. I guess I'll do okay, even if she doesn't accept, the fact that I got her number made me much more confident in general.

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Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

Most women under 30 would rather text. Anyone older, you should call. So text first, then call.

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I respectfully disagree was well. My 16 year old daughter will NOT date anyone that texts her first. Her reason: "If he's not man enough to call me, he's not man enough to date me."

All I have to say is it looks like texting is working out for the OP.

May I jump in with a suggestion? Where you're going to "win" in this situation is with the power of your own mind. Make a decision that you're going to have a great time. If you truly decide that, it doesn't matter what happens on your lunch date (which it looks like you'll definitely get), I think you'll be amazed at how that changes your perception of everything.

The best way to ensure she's pleased with you is to decide that you're going to be "pleased with yourself" first. If you're having a great time no matter what she's going to be inclined to simply go along with you. :)

I hope that helps out.