So it's about my gym trainer. We don't talk or anything,not really and some may go ''well why are u asking this question '' but...
The gazes. I consider myself a pretty girl and the odd thing is he doesn't talk to me at all ( he talks to some other girls sometimes and jokes around with them but I've noticed he mostly talks about excersize topics with them,and they are usually fanning over him lol ) yet he never ( so far ) tried to come up to me and say something.. then again I'm kind of a silent flower :)

L I'm usually into my own business and I don't want to be a giggling fan girl of his,but... he gives me gazes. When I come in the gym or change for work out he gives me these long looks,I see the way he looks at me sometimes.. and the other night I was walking out the gym and he was outside with 3 of his guy friends and as I was approaching he looked at me and his eyes were on me and he was the first one to say ''bye,see ya'' and when I walked by one of his friends said '' I just feel in love,you have to introduce me to her '' ,and he said that he won't. Or he does little things,like hold the door open for me if I need to pass ( he doesn't to that for other girls ). Does he like me even a little bit,and if he does,why isn't he trying to talk/joke around with me? Then again,that's maybe because I'm not the talkative/open type.

I talked to him the other day

The topic wasn't all that good though,I'm being stalked by a guy at my gym ( where the guy I like works as a personal trainer ) for a while now ,I told him,he was sitting on his chair

I was standing next to him kind of close ,but he again did not look at me in my eyes ( he usually avoids it,thoughh sometimes I catch him giving me long looks ) ,he kept his head low,his body kind of leaned forward, and listened, chuckling at some parts ,occasionally nodding slowly,and I hugged him at the end of the talk ( a gentle soft hug not a strangling one ) and at first he kept his head low ,but then he put his hand on my waist and kept it there :)

So... yes or no? I'm not the type to imagine when I see something but sometimes I think he even dislikes me lol

Honestly? I don't think he's interested. Guys are not that subtle. While girls will spend a lot of time gazing at a guy they like, guys are more likely to just come out and say something. Even if he's too shy to ask you out on a date, it's very easy to suggest that you go for a cup of coffee after the gym and continue discussing the best way to deadlift.

I can't think think of any guy who, if a girl he liked gave him a hug, wouldn't return it enthusiastically, and probably kiss her too.

The only other reason he would be giving you looks but not acting is if he's married or engaged.

You may want him to show more, and you are smitten, and have a crush, so I think you are seeing anything he does for a sign of interest, but I doubt you get it, or should pursue this, because he obviously wants to keep it all business, and professional, because this is where he works, and wants NO female problems at work. Maybe he does have someone already.

Respect it, and honor it. Nothing personal, just business. A gym is a great place for a guy to gaze longingly, that's lust, or girl watching. That's what guys do.

If you have a stalker then , the teacher is looking out for you. There are no feelings for you except what a teacher has for a student.

Please get these thoughts out of your head. If you tell others what
You have told us he could be in trouble and unless he has made inappropriate moves toward you, you need to stop fantasizing about him.

He could have a girl friend. Do you ever speak to him, say hello?
I think if he liked you he would be more forward letting you know. I'm assuming you are both adults.
If you think he likes you and maybe shy, ask him out for coffee or something then you'd know for sure.

How old are you?

Um.. number one.

He can't kiss or enthusiastially hug anybody,he never does that. He is not your '' I want to f.uck every girl I train'' type of guy. So he isn't flirting with ANY girl,so he is not likely to say ANYTHING flirtatious to ANY girl. Not cause he's taken,he is simply a nice guy,which I like. My point was,witghn some of the girls he jokes around with or talks ( in a friendly way,high fiving them etc ) and with me,when he speaks he is very quiet,and says few things and doesn't look in my eyes etc. I have guy friends at my gym and so far I really don't know one of them who can't look in my eyes,so ***?
Like I said,I consider myself a pretty girl ( and I'm not saying this to appear vain or say looks are everything ) so,it's not like I look like the devil so he should run from me,nor did I do anything to annoy him,he is always the one that says hello to me first,and bye,I'm the one more to myself,like I said,silent :)

So I'm just wondering why is he so restrained when with me? Now someone will say ''well with the girl he would like he would be open'' but he isn't like that,the girls he is open with... frankly,most of them are fan girls who come up to him and contiuously try to flirt with him,and I don't want to be a part of those.

So,if he doesn't like me,why is he so reserved and almost shy when he is with me?

Well maybe he does like you. No one here can answer that question for you.
Ask him out for coffee and see how it goes, then you'll know.

Oh and don't think I don't value your opinions guys,I do,I don't mind if they are different.

P.S. Talan

I said in my last sentence I am not the type to imagine things :) I wouldn' have even though along these lines if I didn't see something from him first,I assure you that,my head never goes to the clouds unless someone set me off somehow first. The things I saw were

1. long looks when he thinks I can't see him
2. that wasn't the first time a guy said something about me to him in a gym ( example, ''I want to meet with her hook me up ' ) and that he said no,whilst with other girls he would be ''yeah sure hey I'll tell her to come here'' but when it's me,he doesn' let it.
3. when he speaks to some other girls he looks my way while I'm working out,the other night two girls which I don't like ( they are very pushy and annoying ) where talking to him,and he sat and looked at me,a few times and when I noticed I look back he quickly looks somewhere else etc.

but then again your maybe right,maybe it all was in my head.

All right then, buck up and ask him out for coffee or something. That will at least let you know where you stand. Good luck!!

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Originally Posted by answerme_tender

Alright then, buck up and ask him out for coffee or something. That will atleast let you know where you stand. Good luck !!!

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Well then put the assuming, presuming, wondering, and guessing to bed. Talk to him as you know more than we do about this guy so find out the facts. No if, ands, or butts, and no excuses about how pretty you are and the meanings of the looks he gives you, or why this, or why that!!

How's that for advice. Get the facts, and act accordingly.

Maybe he is gay. Maybe he is keeping his private life private. Maybe he just simply isn't interested. Maybe he's just into certain 'types' of girls (like the ones that fawn over him), maybe he's gun shy, maybe he's just out of a bad relationship.

It could be a million things.

The only way you will know, is to try to get a message to him (even a note in a sealed envelope), asking him if he would be interested in having coffee after your workout next Friday. Simple and honest.

It doesn't look like he's going to make a move, so if you want to know if he's interested, you will have to make a move.

Has anything happened? I reckon you know deep down whether he likes you so the only way to find out is to chat to him some more... so find an opportunity to chat and don't over analyze... just notice what you notice... be yourself and you'll soon know.. good luck xx