How long does it take before I can breathe sleep and eat again
Hi guys girls my 7 year relationship which I tried so hard to stop ending and saying goodbye to my two daughters 1 and 6 I just can't function, I have to move out in 1 day and say goodbye not my choice but forced to do it she won't even say she won't give up on me. So past heartbroken can't eat can't sleep can't breathe can't watch television can't relax I feel as if someone standing on my chest and if eveything I've known has gone I just always wanted to be loved and have someone to cuddle up to at nights

Can you give us more? Like what reasons are behind this split?

Is this out of the blue? Are you "innocent"?

We need more to respond to, please.

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Originally Posted by ALEXWHITEFOOT

How long does it take before i can breathe sleep and eat again
hi guys girls my 7 year relationship which i tried so hard to stop ending and saying goodbye to my two daughters 1 and 6 i just can't function, i hav to move out in 1 day and say goodbye not my choice but forced to do it she wont even say she wont give up on me. so past heartbroken can't eat can't sleep can't breathe can't watch television can't relax i feel as if someone standing on my chest and if eveything ive known has gone i just always wanted to be loved and have someone to cuddle up to at nights

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Time... that is truly what it takes. So sorry you are going through so much pain, but as cliché as it may sound, it will get easier with time and things will hold a different perspective.

No fast way to get through it however, so focus on taking care of yourself, allow yourself time to grieve, spend time with family and friends, see your girls when you can. Do your best to keep things as "normal" for them as you can in regard to what you say and how you behave.

What happened that caused the abrupt end of your relationship? A few more details may give us a little insight as to what was going on.

Break ups are really hard. It'll take a while, but you'll slowly be able to breath, eat and function again.

Just be certain that the end of the relationship with her is not the end of the relationship with your children. If you need to, get a lawyer and get visitation started ASAP. The kids need you even if she's decided she doesn't.

What you feel is not going to go away for a long time. So the best thing you can do is try to keep as busy as you possibly can. No matter who or what caused this breakup, it is natural for you to blame yourself. Eventually, the hurt will be start to go away, and you will be able to function again. But give yourself all the time you need. And hopefully, you will learn from the mistakes that were made and love someone again, and you will be loved again. It will happen someday, but for now try to get yourself to a support group so you won't feel so isolated as I'm sure you feel.

Make every moment with your kids special. You may not get to see them every day, but when you do see them, make it count.

I can't imagine the pain you're going through. I know I'd be a mess if I couldn't be with my kids every day, but you will get used to this, it will get easier, and you will find a way to make it work, for the sake of your kids.

Seeing a therapist would be a good idea at this time. A therapist can help you deal with the feelings you're having, not only the break up but the situation with your kids, your sleep issues, etc. It's good to get things off your chest and learn how to deal with the future.

Hang in there, it will get better.