The only time he wants to have sex is weekends when he does not have to work, and have the time he does not want to have it then, unless I ask him for it, or if I say "are you ready for bed" then he says I thought we were having sex and then the only reason he says that is because he knows I will get mad. Its always been like this we have been together for 5 years on and off, and when we break up and then get back together he can't get enough of having sex with me, then after a few weeks, he does not ever want to have. I have talked to him about to many times, sometimes he says it because he gets off easy, other times his excuse is he can't have sex on days he has to get up early, but tonight for example I asked him if he was going to have sex he said he had to get to bed early tonight, I said well why are you not in bed then because it was the time he always goes to bed, then he said well I'm going and he sat in the bedroom for another 20 minutes watching TV, eating chips then he smoked a cigarette. Then sometimes when we have sex he acts like he likes it SO much, then other times, he doesn't act like he is into it at all, like last night I could tell he didn't want to do it, we did it and he acted like he wasn't into it at all until I started doing his fav way of me ontop then he gets off and I didn't get off, he usually gets off first then gets me off (because he stays hard) but last night, just like many other nights he acted like it was killing him to keep having sex with me for me to get mine. Then about eating my *****, he use to do it a lot, now in the last 2 years I have may have had my ***** eaten maybe 4-5 times, his first excuse was he was one of those guys who didn't like to eat it, then another one was he didn't think he did it good. I know its not me, I have been with other people who can't get enough of me, why does he do this to me? Are relationship isn't that great anyway, I think the only reason he stays is because of our son, but I can't say its all his fought because I don't love him like I used to after him cheating on my with 4 different girls while I was pregnant, but what is the deal with this sex thing? I mean really? Like I said I have talked to him many times telling him I need more sex because you could say I'm some what addicted to it, I love it to be completely honest. What do I do? What's the deal with him? Does he just not love me anymore and just have sex with me when he knows he has too, to shut me up? Please someone help me and give me the right answer!!

Did you ever think that maybe he realllllly isn't at work, and maybe another chick is getting him off?

On and off for 5 years. What's with that? He is just using you.. he gets bored then finds someone else to pump for a while then it's back to you... kick this loser to the curb and bring that stuff on!!

Sounds like an awful situation. First things first, y'all can't stay together for the sake of your son. If he notices that mommy and daddy aren't happy then he's not going to be happy. Eventually he will blame his self for y'alls problems.

Also, I agree with piggingstring... maybe he's with other people. Very hard to accept but maybe you should just come out and ask him. In my opinion it's better to hear the truth no matter how bad then to be devastated by a lie. Good Luck...