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  • Sep 12, 2010, 07:19 AM
    amri1959
    I recently married, my husband changed completely to a very jealuos man.Can you help
    I recently got married, In January 2010. My husband changed like overnite. He is mean, he is very abusive he says he is jealous and I have never given him any type of reason for his change.He checks my cell everyday my car, and at night after we make love he says " did you spend a lot of time with the other man?'. I just feel that he has gone to far and I am so tired of his ways. I love him, but he is very jealous. I do not undestand him.Can you help me?
    I AM DESPERATE IN NEED OF HELP!
  • Sep 12, 2010, 09:33 AM
    Kitkat22

    If he is jealous and emotionally abusive, how long before it turns to physical abuse?

    Seek counseling for both of you.
    If he doesn't agree... Leave.
  • Sep 12, 2010, 11:00 PM
    Allie602
    Some details that you could provide to help get more complete responses. How long and how well did you know him before you married him? How old are you both and what is your culture? Do you have family and friends that you can talk to? Has he ever shown signs of instability before you married him? Has he lost his job or suffered any life changes besides getting married. Is this first marriage for both?
  • Sep 14, 2010, 02:24 PM
    Devorameira

    He's angry, abusive, and controlling, and it will only get worse.

    If you don't leave. He'll beat you down until you have no self-confidence at all and then you won't feel as if you have enough strength to leave him. It's going to be a total nightmare if you don't get out now before you get any children involved.
  • Sep 14, 2010, 03:00 PM
    answerme_tender

    Leave now, before he decides its time to have children!! You don't want to bring children home to an abusive situation. Good luck
  • Sep 14, 2010, 03:04 PM
    Enigma1999
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Allie602 View Post
    Some details that you could provide to help get more complete responses. How long and how well did you know him before you married him? How old are you both and what is your culture? Do you have family and friends that you can talk to? Has he ever shown signs of instability before you married him? Has he lost his job or suffered any life changes besides getting married. Is this first marriage for both?

    Good questions. I too would like to know the answer to these questions, please?
  • Sep 14, 2010, 07:32 PM
    Stringer

    If the change happened 'over night' as you seem to suggest I have to ask, has anything happened that may have caused it? I am not suggesting that you have cheated or have been untrue to him but something probably fueled this change.

    The questions that Allie asked you are very pertinent and could also carry some weight here.

    Stringer
  • Sep 14, 2010, 07:39 PM
    Kitkat22

    The only advice I have for you is leave. Where are you going to be a year from now? If you stay and put up with his emotional abuse you will never take the first step to get out.

    Do you picture yourself with him ten years from now? Get help.
  • Sep 15, 2010, 11:45 AM
    Allie602
    I wonder why the OP does not come back, she sounded so desperate. Can't understand why a person would seem to be so in need of advice and not come back.
  • Sep 15, 2010, 11:52 AM
    88sunflower
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Allie602 View Post
    I wonder why the OP does not come back, she sounded so desperate. Can't understand why a person would seem to be so in need of advice and not come back.

    Maybe he found her on the computer.
  • Sep 21, 2010, 08:24 PM
    Allie602
    Comment on 88sunflower's post
    Oops

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