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  • Sep 11, 2010, 02:51 PM
    pom.mom
    Hubby is self conscious about his bad teeth and doesn't like deep kissin even though I do
    My Husband of 2 months is very self conscious about sex and romance. He used to french kiss me when we dated and was very good in bed but now its died down after only 2 months into marriage. He has dental trouble and is self conscious about expressing his feelings (always has been about expresing feelings) and we are having financial trouble. Could this be the reason he is not as interested in love making and kissing?
  • Sep 11, 2010, 04:27 PM
    tickle

    Yes, you got it, financial trouble and bad teeth will always kill the romance in the bedroom pom.pom.

    Tick
  • Sep 11, 2010, 04:32 PM
    jmjoseph

    Talk to him about it. He is going through a double whammy right now. He feels unattractive AND broke. Work it out together.

    Good luck.
  • Sep 13, 2010, 06:52 PM
    Allie602
    It cetainly could be the tipping point for him with the addition of the other stressors. I don't know your country but here in the US there are several lower cost option for dental care. Dental school fees are significantly lower than private fees, the trade off is that you need to make appointments between approximately 9 AM and 5 PM. If you work, then you have to use leave time. There are also dental hygiene schools which are even more reasonably priced. Again time is needed. If you tell me where you are approximately (if it's allowed on the board, I don't know) but give me a state if in the US and I can give you the names of dental schools and hygiene schools in the state.

    He can get a good tooth cleaning fairly easily at a hygiene school and then maybe when you are on better financial footing, go to the dental school. I don't know if the rules of the board prohibit the mention of name brand but being ignorant I will recommend Crest pro health tooth paste and mouth rinse, Oral b toothbrush, soft, and glide floss. Brush and floss before going to bed and upon waking.

    Also talk to him, but it's probably better not to tell him how to solve his problems. Most men feel more supported if their wives demonstrate faith that they can solve the problems and act respectfully towards them. Financial problems are the most serious blow to a good mans ego but he needs to know that you still love and have faith in him as a man. Surprise him by doing something he really likes and let him know through actions that he is special to you. He may not express how much of a phycological boost your actions are but you will probably see it in his attitude. Hope to hear from you

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