I am in a relationship for about 6 months now, we have AMAZING sex, but I have never reached the point of orgasm. He does and he's very into wanting to make sure everything is great for me. I do fake it and tell him "Of course I finished." but really never do. It's confusing to me because all of it is so great and I wouldn't change anything. I want to be able to have an orgasm of course, but don't want to hurt his feelings.

How old are you both?

We are both 38. I've had orgasims before so I know I can have them. Just find it odd that as great as it is with him, I don't get one.

Have you tried stimulating yourself with a vibrator or something of the like during sex? How about him giving you oral until you're closer and then riding him.

Essentially you need to incorporate what you know will make you orgasm into your sexual encounter.

Also realize that the number of women who actually orgasm from penetrative sex is quite low. There is nothing wrong with you. You just need to add that little extra, a vibrating cock ring is nice, that will push you over.

Also. I would stop telling your boy friend that you're getting off and come clean that you're faking. Don't lie to him. Enjoy the moment and enjoy the sex. I have heard that the destination isn't always orgasm. Also don't concentrate on the prize it could keep you from achieving it. Have the sex. Enjoy it. If push comes to shove, finish yourself or get him to finish you off afterwards.

I don't understand the "amazing sex but no orgasm" part. What exactly is amazing? I'd be very, very frustrated.

Judy,

You do not have to have an orgasm in order to have amazing sex, that is just a fact.

As far as being a new couple, your still getting to know each other. It takes time to discover each other. I would say your worst mistake is faking it, because then he will think that your enjoying it and there will never be room for more interesting exploring of both your sexual needs. Stop faking the orgasm.

Communication and more foreplay very important, but the most important thing to do is both of you to be completely relaxed.

I agree with cravenmorhead. I would have him give you oral until you are almost there, then get on top of him and try to finish if off.

Also, I would stop faking orgasms.