So I had my first time with Tim. I guess it was our first time, I had promiscuous encounters with a couple of other guys that Tim didn't know about, but not full on sex. He had never done anything, just makeout. So we were sitting on my stairs a few weeks ago and we both knew we wanted to, yanno, do the deed. But to be honest I never thought he would try anything beyond fingering.Anyway, we were sitting there on my stairs and we were talking and holding hands, but knowing me I never ever make a first move. So finally he just grabbed me and started making out with me, less than about 45 second his hands went straight down my pants, he started fingering me, he didn't quite know what he was doing but I of course cut him a little slack seeing it was his first time doing anythign other than making out. So he went home and promised me he would come back and sneak in around 1 am. So around 1 a.m. he returned, and by than I was definitally ready to do it. I grabbed him and I took him into the room and we started kissing and what not, than he took my shirt off and than my pants and than he took off my bra. And finally my panties. So I took off all his clothes and I gave him a little head, than I laid down and I had already had a somewhat quickie but it wasn't full penetration with another guy, so I knew what was up. So he climbed on top of me and finally got it in, he wasn't as big compared to the 19 year old I had sex with but Tim is only 16. The pain wasn't too bad, I could definitally feel it but it wasn't too bad. So the sex surprisingly lasted like 45 minutes. I wanted it to stop but I waited for him to finish. Finally we were done and he went home. Things were pretty good this happened over the summer. A few weeks later he came over and I was on my period so we couldn't do anything, I didn't want to ttell him so I just acted uninterested, I sort of was though because a few weeks after we had sex he had started dating another girl that didn't really put out or anything she was a goody good, and I got upset and wouldn't talk to him. Well the night he was over when I wouldn't talk to him he thought I was mad at him, even though I was still hurt from the whole other girl thing I wasn't mad, than he asked me , "Is it about Kennady?" I was mad than. So after that I was just like whatever it doesn't matter what happened, and he was like yeah well I'm going to go, and I was like no don't I'm sorry, and he was like It really doesn't matter, than he stormed out and slammed my door and I texted him to apologize but all he said was oh okay. School started and I swear I have super powers because I am invisible to him. We have clases together we sit at the same lunch table, but he won't even look at me. It really just hurts my feelings because I didn't really do anything wrong, and I really want to know how we could do something that special yet I am stillll nothing to him? Someone help please

How old are you please?

The boy is 16 so my guess is 16 or less..

I hpe you know the dangers of having sex so young. You're making a name for yourself with the guys.

Respect yourself and stop this reckless behaviour. Guys talk among themselves.

You also stand the risk of an unwanted pregnancy or an STD.
Stop the sex.

Because it wasn't special to him. He may have even known about your previous encounters and was looking to get some experience with you.

This is why you should only engage in sex with someone you have a long term committed relationship with.

Don't have sex until you are ready to be a mother. And then make sure you are ready, and know that the person cares about you.

Hello Kitten,

Sex should be between two people who care deeply for one another.

Not to mention you two are very young...

I cannot fathom someone having oral sex with two guys and a sexual encounter you said wasn't
"full on sex".

Where in the world were your parents? Your innocence is gone' it's been gone since the oral sex.
This guy "Tim" knew about you and he knew you would have sex with him. That's all he wanted.

You can turn yourself around and regain some of your pride. First
Start acting your age. Stop giving yourself to any guy who acts interested.

Don't act or dress like a bad girl and don't have sex. Guys do not want a girl who's been with three or four other guys. They may say it doesn't matter but it does.

You don't have to be a party girl to have friends. Most guys like a young lady who has pride. You can have that again.

Most guys want to be seen with a girl they can be proud of. Think of what will happen if you keep
Going on as you are.

You'll probably have children someday and a nice husband. Would you tell your children about
Your past?

Stay in school and forget about this guy. You have learned a lesson and that is, guys will use you for sex and then drop you like a hot potato once they get what they want.

Get yourself together. Study hard, leave the guys alone and start being the girl you can be proud of. Good Luck

I'd still like to know how old you are. Under sixteen could be 12, and you've already had sex with a 19 year old.

Simple facts. You put out, you get what you want, he gets what he wants. He drops you like a hot potato because you are just a quick romp to him. You have things backwards. First you develop a relationship, THEN you consider intimacy. You don't put the icing on the bottom of the cake do you?

I presume one or both of you had some sort of protection? Are you on the pill? Do your parents know you are sexually active and sneaking a guy into your house in the middle of the night? (unclear as to whether you are living at home, I presume you are, and I presume they would not approve).

Are you aware of sexually transmitted diseases? Do you know that you are putting yourself at risk to become pregnant?

Why are you so easy, and I can't think of a nice way to say that. You mentioned a girl who didn't put out as a 'goody goody', so what does that make you.

Note that the guy chose substance over a quick booty call. That would be the girl he is with now, the 'goody goody'.

Before you give of yourself so freely, in an intimate way, try to think of the consequences. You are sexually active as you say, and now that you have moved onto the next level of blowjobs to full blown sex as you described it, where do you think this behaviour is going to take you.

You will not find respect coming your way from any guy, if you are so easy. You may end up with an entire army of conquests, but none of them will have any substance, and that is very, very sad.

Please try to re-think the road you are on. One thing is for sure, you will not have a meaningful relationship with any guy, unless you keep your pants on, and start with getting to know them first. And I don't mean getting to know them physically.

KItten13. Don't feel bad about what you are doing, your motives are that you are trying to please these boys but giving them what you think they want to make them like you. You are mistaken, they will not like you in fact they will not see the person you are at all. That's how boys are, they don't care about girls who give them pleasure they are just concerned about themselves and getting what they can for as little effort and caring as possible.

I don't think you knew that about boys but I think you can see that I am correct by the way they treat you as if you have no feelings. They see you as a source of free and easy pleasure. You are too valuable for this. Step back and stop and ask why your are seeking their approval? Is their approval more important than you regarding yourself as a valuable and lovely girl.

You are too young right now to get involved sexually with boys. The reason being that you are not yet old enough to protect yourself from being hurt and knowing what you need to feel safe and good about yourself, so just stop now and wait. Learn from your experience that this is not the way to gain love and approval.

Don't let any one guilt you, but stop and hold the person you are in high regard even if you have not been told so before. You are no more guilty or bad than the boys who are seeking free and easy pleasure. It is an old concept held by older people that girls should feel guilty, but absolute garbage and it is not true. But girls should feel special and feel no need to please boys or men to get their approval, simple as that. They need to get your approval not the other way around just remember that from now on.

Once you start to consider yourself as special you will act special and not need to gain anyone's approval by giving so much. . And remember to regard this as a learning experience and just avoid contact with boys for now. You will find many of them coming to you to get pleasure but send them away and tell them that you have decided that they are not worth your approval. Rejecting them will increase yourself esteem and staying away from them will pay off big time in the future because you will not ever let this happen again and when you are mature you will be able to form relationships based on mutual respect and caring.

I send you a hug and hope you will think about this and take it to heart

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