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  • Sep 8, 2010, 12:45 PM
    aaronaddis1989
    My girlfriend doesn't know if she wants to be with me or not?
    Me and my girlfreind have been together a year and a half and now she says I am to sensitive too jealous and obssessive and doesn't know if she wants to be with me or not what shall I do try and stick it out and see what she decides or finish it. I need help with this please help me!
  • Sep 8, 2010, 12:58 PM
    BMI

    Based on her accusations I assume you may have demonstrated same during your relationship. I am a little confused with your plan of action though. Are you suggesting that because she brought up these concerns and that she may be leaving, you, as a response, will leave first? Not sure how sound a strategy that is to be honest.

    You also mention sticking it out to see what she decides. Why not talk to her, see if these things can be resolved before choosing either at this point? I see some middle ground here but I'm not so sure I see the capable players involved in reaching it.
  • Sep 8, 2010, 01:01 PM
    Cat1864

    More background information would help to be able to give you appropriate advice.

    Are you too sensitive, jealous and obsessive? Is this the first time she has said anything? Is she willing to discuss the issues?

    If you are insecure and it is affecting your relationship, are you willing to make changes?

    Has she given you reason to be concerned such as cheating on you?
  • Sep 8, 2010, 01:41 PM
    I wish

    What you really need is to talk to her. Nail down the problems and see if you guys can tackle. As long as you're both still willing to work hard on this relationship, then you have a chance.
  • Sep 13, 2010, 07:43 AM
    aaronaddis1989
    Can I get my ex back?
    Me and my girlfriend recently broke up and I know why but she is now saying that after nearly a year and half I am too young for her yes there is 13 years difference but how can I all of a sudden be to young please help?
  • Sep 13, 2010, 07:47 AM
    JoeCanada76

    It does not matter what the reason is. What matters now is that your girlfriend broke up with you. Ended the relationship and will be moving on.

    Can you get your ex back, the clear and unequivocal answer is no and why would you want to?

    So there are a few things to recap.

    You can not control what other people do.
    You can try to figure out why or think that it might be a certain reason but looking for reasons just prolong the healing of ending the relationship.
    Year and a half is honestly not that long and I would bet your top dollar she wants to be free and single and or out and looking for somebody more compatible.

    Good luck.
  • Sep 13, 2010, 08:54 PM
    lamp_post
    Yes, I got to agree on this one. I am just over with my 4 yo relationship with my girl and to a new guy and I kept asking for a sensible reason which my ex didn't give me. Asking God since and it just made it worst. It has been slightly about 2 months. It is still hard but I get to see other things. Open your eyes and L@@K. There are so much more love.
  • Sep 13, 2010, 10:51 PM
    Kitkat22

    How old are you?
  • Sep 14, 2010, 01:58 PM
    silverlining

    You say she is 13 years older than you? That's is quite a bit older.. She is probably ready for marriage/kids etc. Are you ready to offer her these things?
  • Sep 14, 2010, 04:26 PM
    Homegirl 50

    Maybe the difference in years was becoming a problem with her. So if she ends it, you have no choice but to leave her alone.
  • Sep 16, 2010, 07:51 AM
    talaniman

    She had her fun, but her feelings changed so she dumped you. Age never matters in the beginning, but things change when the lust wears off.
  • Sep 16, 2010, 09:16 AM
    Kitkat22

    She's telling you she wants out. I wish she had enough guts to say "I don't love you anymore, I don't want to be with you anymore". That's what she feels and it would be a lot easier on you if she were down right honest
    Instead of making up excuses.

    Count yourself lucky you found out and don't let her use you as a standby. Break it off completely and please, don't go running when she calls. NO CONTACT.

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