Hello I found out 9 months ago that I am going to have a baby when I told the man I was with he told me he would pay for his half of the abortion and he made it very clear to me that he wanted nothing to do with the child I have not talked to him sense then and over the last 9 months I got back with an ex of mine and we have been doing great and he wants to be there for the baby he has gone to every doctor apt with me and has taking on the role of daddy and I want to give the baby his last name can I do that? I live in WI I don't no what the laws are so I'm not sure

You can name the child anything you want. Pretty stupid to give the child his last name though when YOU don't even have that last name.

Having him sign the birth certificate is completely different though: If you have him sign the birth certificate KNOWING that he is not the biological father, you are committing fraud.

List the biological father as the biological father, and file for child support. He played the game, now he has to support the child he helped bring into this world.

Just because the father wants nothing to do with the child doesn't mean he can get away with it. He contributed to the child he is responsible for contributing to its support.

As for the ex, get married and let him adopt if you want to go that route.

The reason for me wanting to give him another last name is because we have been talking about getting married and I want the baby's last name the same as mine and I don't no if I can change it later so why not do it from the start?

And I don't want anything from the biological father I seen his true colors when I told him about the baby and I don't want to deal with it and there are a bunch of people saying the reason he is acting like that is cause he is gay and don't want kids and is

Scard to tell people and don't want his parents to find out that is another reason why we broke up cause I found some things and talked to him about it and he lied at first then told me he didn't have a track record with girls so he has been thinking about

Going gay but was scard of what his parent would say so I was like I'm sorry we can't be together and I don't want my child around a man like that what if something were to happen and above I meant a good track record wit girls

So I would rather just forget all about him and move on and not have him in my life or this baby's life and I'm worryed and scard that after baby is born he might want to be there.& how do I prevent that from happing?

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Originally Posted by snapperk

hello i found out 9 months ago that i am going to have a baby when i told the man i was with he told me he would pay for his half of the abortion and he made it very clear to me that he wanted nothing to do with the child i have not talked to him sence then and over the last 9 months i got back with an ex of mine and we have been doing great and he wants to b there for the baby he has gone to every doctor apt with me and has takin on the role of daddy and i want to give the baby his last name can i do that? i live in WI i dont no what the laws r so im not sure

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You can name the baby anything you want to.

What you cannot do legally is have someone put their name on the birth certificate knowing that it is not their biological child. If you have your current partner sign a paternity acknowledgment when the both of you know it is not your child, you're going to create bigger problems down the road.

If you are on any form of state assistance, the state is going to ask you for a list of possible fathers in order to start child support. You are required to list your ex, the biological father of the child. If a support case is ordered, they will most likely have a hearing regarding custody and visitation issues.

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Whether you want the biological father around, you've got him in one form or another for the next 18 years. Lying on the birth certificate would just make YOU look bad.

Get married. Have your husband adopt the child. Please be aware, though, that if the biological father contests the adoption, it will not go through.

File for child support as soon as the child is born. Some men are willing to give up parental rights to get out of child support. Of course, the child support would end (and parental rights can only generally be relinquished) when an adoption is final.

He's the father of the child, at least biologically. If he goes to court for visitation and partial custody, he has the right to do so.

The best thing you can do is have a healthy pregnancy, file for child support once the child is born, get married and work with the biological father to get the child's step-father to adopt.