I am just so frustrated and even though I am a christian, I am angry at God for making me so ugly. I know this sounds terrible, I feel even worse about being angry at God. I haven't had a boyfriend since freshman year of high school, and that wasn't even a real relationship. I am now 22 and in college but I STILL don't have a boyfriend. I wasn't asked out to the prom, and I haven't even had my first real kiss yet! I feel so unnatractive and ugly, guys just look right through me. Even when I dress up and put make-up on! I feel that I can't compete with the more attractive ladies and this frustrates me to the point where I want to break down and cry. Please tell me how can I become prettier and be happy with myself. When I look in the mirror, all I see is an ugly face with an ugly body with no boobs at all. Please help...

I guess you have to know inside somewhere deep inside your heart that there is a man out there waiting for you and when you get married you will be the world to him. So you might think your ugly but that's only on the outside not the inside!!


:) I hope you understand

I'm wondering if the guys are staying away because of your negative attitude about yourself, rather than being a fun person to be around. I know an awful lot of plain, fat, and even ugly women who are happily married.

As for physical appearance, since that is your main concern (unfortunately), go to a beauty salon and ask for a cut that fits your face shape and is attractive for you. A "bob" that curves around and frames a woman's face seems to work for a lot of us. Highlighting might be fun to add. It might be worthwhile to find someone who will advise you on how you walk and sit and handle yourself. For instance, young teen girls who usually wear slacks/shorts don't know how to walk and sit when they wear dresses. Of course, always be clean and neat.

Now, why are you so down on yourself? Do you have siblings/family (nearby or far away), any girl friends, do you belong to any clubs or organizations, do you have a part-time job, what do you do in your quiet time? What's your most favorite thing to do? What the most awful thing you can imagine doing?

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I know this sounds terrible, I feel even worse about being angry at God.

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Are you angry at God for other reasons too? What's been happening in your life that's bringing you down like this?

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I'm wondering if the guys are staying away because of your negative attitude about yourself, rather than being a fun person to be around. I know an awful lot of plain, fat, and even ugly women who are happily married.

As for physical appearance, since that is your main concern (unfortunately), go to a beauty salon and ask for a cut that fits your face shape and is attractive for you. A "bob" that curves around and frames a woman's face seems to work for a lot of us. Highlighting might be fun to add. It might be worthwhile to find someone who will advise you on how you walk and sit and handle yourself. For instance, young teen girls who usually wear slacks/shorts don't know how to walk and sit when they wear dresses. Of course, always be clean and neat.

Now, why are you so down on yourself? Do you have siblings/family (nearby or far away), any girl friends, do you belong to any clubs or organizations, do you have a part-time job, what do you do in your quiet time? What's your most favorite thing to do? What the most awful thing you can imagine doing?

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Are you angry at God for other reasons too? What's been happening in your life that's bringing you down like this?

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Thanks a lot,Wondergirl. You are right,I need to be more positive. It's just that I'm tired of not getting noticed by guys, even when I make an effort to look my best. I'm tired of them noticing women who are more attractive than me. I am clean and neat and I'm always nice and polite to others, but guys act like they are more into looks than personality. I'm down on myself so hard because I haven't had a boyfriend in a long time and I don't think anyone considers me attractive. I have family far away from where I stay and I am on the volleyball team. I don't have a job yet. In my quiet time,I like to listen to music. My favorite thing to do is makeup and hair. The most aweful thing I can imagine doing is track team ( I hate running a lot *lol*) Thanks again.

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Thanks alot,Wondergirl. You are right,I need to be more positive. It's just that I'm tired of not getting noticed by guys, even when I make an effort to look my best. I'm tired of them noticing women who are more attractive than me. I am clean and neat and I'm always nice and polite to others, but guys act like they are more into looks than personality. I'm down on myself so hard because I haven't had a boyfriend in a long time and I don't think anyone considers me attractive. I have family far away from where I stay and I am on the volleyball team. I don't have a job yet. In my quiet time,I like to listen to music. My favorite thing to do is makeup and hair. The most aweful thing I can imagine doing is track team ( I hate running alot *lol*) Thanks again.

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Thanks for answering all my questions (or at least, most of them).

And yes, males are visual little rascals, so they tend to concentrate on the outside of the package and how prettily it's wrapped. Is there anything you say or do that works with guys, to get and keep their attention? Are you concentrating on the hunks and buff and athletic guys? What about the shy guy in your English class or the nerd in your math class?

Lose weight. Get attractive clothes. Sleep well. SMILE - simple as that!

I have a therapy called "walmart" you sit and watch all the people coming in and out, fat people, skinny people, and more. You will find people with all sort of looks all with others,

Looks has almost nothing to do with dating. There are people who will like you for who you are, The thing is you have to be willing to be open to someone else

Song of Songs is your answer ;). The chapter describes a beautiful woman. Thank the Lord everyday, that you're lovely as her, eyes, nose, lips, legs, its all there! Just confess that you're beautiful like her. At the same time, believe it, and get rid of resentment and jealousy. When you see someone prettier than you, praise the Lord for his ability to create beauty instead of complaining to Him. Live your life right, and to pray for beauty, refer to Song of Songs. If you're a good person, and you have faith in Him, there is no reason why your prayers shouldn't be answered :)

smartness z not everifng that u need 2 live.. it kums at last I guess

I'm a christian too! Air high five :-)
I feel the same way accept I'm a sophomore in high school and my sister (whose a twin) has already had boyfriends and I've never had a boyfriend. That's it