When I was in college I had a boyfriend. I was very loyal to him but he was not so serious about me. Still I loved him a lot.our relationship continues 4yrs.as our relationship doesn't have any future I decided to cut it. So after college I stopped to contacting him.though he tried a lot to contact me. But I checked myself a lot. Now I'm married since 2.5yrs. My husband is a very good person and love me a lot. But few days back I have seen my previous boy friend in my dream. Since then I started missing him a lot. Every time m thinking about him a lot. I can't concentrate in my work. He is not in my contact anymore.but suddenly I don't know what happened I'm missing him like a mad. I don't know what to do. Please help me out... want your serious suggestion.

Well... from what I get from that, here's my suggestion:

Try your utmost to forget him. You have a husband who you love and who loves you. You said this boyfriend wasn't so serious about you and at one point you decided to cut him from your life because the relationship "doesn't have any future". Just try to remember that.

I would focus as much as you can on your marriage and don't contact this man, it'll only complicate things, in my opinion.

It is quite common for people to think about past relationships or even to wish they were in them. When tempted, remember back to why the previous relationship ended; obviously something wasn't clicking.

Its fine to "think" just not to "act".

We all get thoughts, and feelings from the past, coming back to haunt us sometimes, and we just have to push forward, and focus on what's important, like our jobs, and family. The feelings will pass over time though, if you let them.
Focus on what you are doing now, not what happened in the past. I think your dream is what triggered these thoughts and feelings, but you have to let them go.

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Originally Posted by Devorameira

It is quite common for people to think about past relationships or even to wish they were in them. When tempted, remember back to why the previous relationship ended; obviously something wasn't clicking.

Its fine to "think" just not to "act".

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Thanks for your suggestion.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

We all get thoughts, and feelings from the past, coming back to haunt us sometimes, and we just have to push forward, and focus on whats important, like our jobs, and family. The feelings will pass over time though, if you let them.
Focus on what you are doing now, not what happened in the past. I think your dream is what triggered these thoughts and feelings, but you have to let them go.

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I will definitely try to do that.. thank you

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Originally Posted by Dysenchanted

Well...from what I get from that, here's my suggestion:

Try your utmost to forget him. You have a husband who you love and who loves you. You said this boyfriend wasn't so serious about you and at one point you decided to cut him from your life because the relationship "doesn't have any future". Just try to remember that.

I would focus as much as you can on your marriage and don't contact this man, it'll only complicate things, in my opinion.

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Yes. I will never contact him.after sharing my feeling in your site m feeling much better. Thank you for your help

Coulda--woulda---shoulda---but there must have been something about this relationship that you made an intelligent decision to move on. Be thankful for what you have before your husband starts to sense something not right and starts questioning his decision!!