Me and my ex boyfriend had broken up like last year, we were together for almost 2 years. Like a lot of relationships we had a lot of problems he was really possessive and it made me be the same way towards him and he didn't seem to like it after a while but we broke up. I was really sad, and I didn't want us to be over but he didn't seem to care. But then what he started was like a couple months later he would text me acting like we were together then he'd stop then he continued on doing it and it really gave me mixed signals. I then saw him at a mutual friends house a few weeks ago and he was all over me wanting me back I kind of pushed him off me but another day I seen him again I made a mistake and did something.. but then he stopped contacting me again we got in a argument because I was questioning everything and I felt like all he wanted was sex not me... so we stopped talking. And now the other day he just once again started texting me acting like we are together telling me he loves me and all that.. we've been talking these last few days. I just don't know what to do or how I feel, I care about him, but I don't know how he thinks I don't want to get attached. I don't know whether to bealive him on anything.

This back and forth relationship does not seem to have much of a foundation to support it. It does seem to be based on sex on his part, and the possesiveness you both showed indicates lack of trust. I know you are concerned about getting hurt, so you are much better off if you don't commit to him until he proves to you that his intentions are honorable. You have already been burnt by him, so the smart thing for you to do is move on. But if you do see him again, you set the ground rules and if he can't follow them, cut him loose.

Why are you still bothering with his drama and confusion? His words and actions just don't match.

I bet if you reject him and leave him alone, the drama and confusion STOPS, and you can move to better, happier things.

This situation happened to me last year and it's worse than yours. He dumped me cause he said I was suffocating him, I begged him to take me back but he didn't care. So I thought that it was the end, I gave up and left him alone. I did everything to make myself happy but believe me it's really hard, I woke up crying everyday cause no matter how I try I just can't forget him. He never called or texted me, which made me think that he really don't care for me anymore. So I decided to date somebody even if I still love him just to get my mind off him. And all of a sudden he just showed up in my house looking so sad and depressed. I got so confused, he started calling me every night, every other hour, monitoring me... if I'm already home, he acted like he's still my boyfriend and it confused me and at the same time gave me hope. So, we started going out and acted like a couple. 1 day I asked him if we're back together he said he don't know, that his confused and his still enjoying his single life! That just broke my heart again, I don't know what we're doing. So I stopped seeing him and started dating another guy, he got so mad and even called me a *****,that I cheated on him... what does he want me to do?? Wait until he's ready? I may love him so much but I'll never going to put myself in that situation. He came back to me, and this time he's the one who begged me to take him back he told me that he's ready for everything and he was just confused with his feelings for me. He was too late, I'm happy with my man now...

Karen dream,
Don't let him confuse you... he gave you pain already and now he's doing that to you. He's thinking that he can do whatever he want to do to u. show him that your OK without him. The more you reply and answer to his calls the more he's going to do that to you. If he really loves you he's going to ask you to get back with him not confusing you like that. I perfectly feel you...