Today my girfriend of 4 months told me she thinks it's a good idea we have a break..
This came about from the Saturday night where I was out partying and she left to go home early, as she had work the next morning. She then became very frustrated with me the next day as she said she doesn't completely trust me. She also said that she couldn't sleep because she was worried about what state I was in and if I would be doing anything (like cheating) that she would most likely not find out.. I have told her so many times that I would never actually be able to bring myself to even thinking about doing that; but she still doesn't trust me completely. She said that she is now confused as too whether she wants a relationship as she said its causing her stress.. but she claims that she hopes this break will help her realise that she does want this to work and that he comes out of it missing me..

My REAL question is to what I do in this break? Do I contact her at all or do I give her space and wait until she contacts me? I'm just really confused.

Does she have a reason to not trust you? Have you ever cheated on her or on a previous girlfriend that she knows about? Has she been cheated on before?

If not, then you both need to talk about why she feels this way. However, if she's asked for space then you need to respect that and give it to her. Just let her know that you're not contacting her at her request and you'll wait for her.

I suspect there may be more to this than just a trust issue though. Going on a break due to lack of trust when you haven't actually done anything seems a little ridiculous to me.

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what to do on a relationship break?

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You do your thing, and leave her alone to do hers, that's what you do on a break.

I suggest you not contact her.
Get yourself ready for the break up.

If you have given her no reason not
To trust you, and she says this;

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(the next day as she said) she doesn't completely trust me. She also said that she couldn't sleep because she was worried about what state I was in and if I would be doing anything (like cheating) that she would most likely not find out..

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This is an indication of some serious issues.
And then she follows it with "I need a break"

I believe she has no intention of getting back with you.
Almost every time that a partner asks for space,some time apart,to be alone for a while,a change of scenery ,or a similar line...
It will shortly be followed by ,it's not you...it's me,I love you but I am not IN love with you,if you love something let it go, if it is yours , it will returnand they all translate to : I have no intention of returning. But in case I want something in the future , you'll be hanging around waiting for me... anxiously.

I know this is a cold way to put this.
But I believe it to be close to what will transpire.
I have encountered the almost identical situation many times.
The things that are said and done are unbelievably similar.

The cold hard honest reality of your situation, tells me
She is on her way out, and wants to keep you in tow for backup.

I advise you to get ready for the heartache ,drama, and pain
That is the aftermath of a breakup.

I'm sorry.

I think that you have to be away for some time , and let your relation works , I mean you will miss each other and feel how you need each other.

U don't have to contact her daily , u have to let love works, if there is a true love, be sure soon she will get back to u

I say give her space. Don't contact her until she contacts you (if she does) I am going through the same thing. My ex broke up with me in September at the start of fall term. *we are both college Juniors. At first, I was really upset that he dumped me after he had asked me to marry him, but now I say : Good ridence. I don't need that in a guy if all he is going to do is play with my emotions. Hopefully, it will work out for the both of us for the better. Hope this helps.