I'm 14. My boyrfirend and I have been going out for a little over 5 months. People at school know about us. My parents don't know about it and my boyfriends dad just found out, but his parents didn't know before. Im not really close to my parents. They are hard to talk to and I just don't like telling them that sort of stuff. But I'm tired of lying to them and not telling them about my boyfriend. I want to tell them I just doont know how to? I have an older brother who I'm really close to and we tell each other stuff we don't tell our parents. So I'm thinking about telling him and then letting him tell out parents. Any other ideas? What should I do?

What are your parents feelings about dating at your age?
Being honest about something your are doing even if it may mess things up is a part of taking responsibility for your actions, part of maturing. If you are sneaking around and lying to your parents and they find out, you will have to regain their trust and that may be a long hard road.
Do the right thing and tell them what you are doing and apologise for lying

What are you lying about ?
What type of dating are you doing ?

How old is your boyfriend?

How do you think your parents are going to feel that you have been hiding this from them? Don't you think they will think there are other reasons you are hiding this from them?

You NEED to tell your parents about these things. Not ONLY tell them, but ask their permission. And you need to do this TODAY!

You have to define dating for us as at 14, a boyfriend at school is very different from someone you hang at the mall, or the movies with.

I agree with you that you should tell them. They need to know.

I think you should tell your older brother and then ask him to sit with you while you tell your parents. Your brother's presence may help keep them from overreacting and make you feel safer. And I also agree with others that you should apologize for lying.

Arrange for your boyfriend to come meet your parents soon after, just so they have a sense of who is he. Keep things low key. If they get upset, wait them out and listen without losing your cool.

Good luck!

EDIT: "Soon after" meaning like within a few days.

But I'm not close to my parents, its hard to talk to them about stuff like that.

If they don't care that you have one, just tell them you have one. Tell them you want them to meet him.

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Originally Posted by babygirl45

im 14. my boyrfirend and i have been going out for a little over 5 months. people at school know about us. My parents dont know about it and my boyfriends dad just found out, but his parents didnt know before. Im not really close to my parents. They are hard to talk to and i just dont like telling them that sort of stuff. but im tired of lieing to them and not telling them about my boyfriend. i want to tell them i just doont know how to? i have an older brother who im really close to and we tell each other stuff we dont tell our parents. so im thinking about telling him and then letting him tell out parents. any other ideas? what should i do?

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I think you should be honest to your parents and tell them the truth about the secret you hide from them :cool: