U know when a guy is down on his luck and just wanted some advice some third party has to do something to irritate him more... With that said. Its been five years since my ex and I broke up. I have no drama or baggage with this back story besides good memories, and feelings that we had no idea what to do with. We broke up after I agreed she should have so called fun at college. Whatever five years later and that's the last thing on my mind. I want her back more than you can imagine and the only time I felt like I could take on the world was with her. I know she has had a boyfriend for a year or two but I could seriously say I could care a less. (man I wish I could swear to express the regret for the time I haven't been with her, here's on to the people who watch over what we type) thanks so much and and e advice is good advice. Thank and ne help is more than appreciated.

I feel like me and the experts got off on the wrong foot ill promise not to swear but don't do that to my honesty.

I haven't a clue what you are speaking of. You only have 2 posts here.

Is there something we can help you with?

Well first I just wanted my first ever ever blog to be taken a little seriously and it seemed it was taken off ten minutes after I posted it, I'm satisfied with this one if you guys are, but if you could change the title of my question to: "I might be the only real guy left" I would appreciate it thanks and sorry if this is any inconvience

This isn't a blog site. This is a question and answer site.

Do you have a question?

My question was should I got back to my ex after five years but this is my first and last question, after embarrassing myself sorry for the post, blog, question, whatever my mistake was. It was acctually just a sign for help but thanks anyway YOU EXPERTS SHOULD DELETE THIS POST. Sorry for the inconvience of this site

Don't be embarrassed, this is a question and answer forum and we just needed to know what type of advice you were asking for.

Sounds as if you'd love to have someone tell you to go try and get her back, but my advice is quite the opposite.

She is off limits. She already has a boyfriend, so you need to leave her alone and not pursue her.

There's some great gal out there waiting to meet you - you just need to get out there and find her.

Do not use any form of chat or text speak.

When starting to use a site like this it helps if you browse around a bit first to see how the site works and how others use it. For example, we don't permit profanity and we don't allow text speak, we type in full words and sentences. You would also have seen that this is not a blog but a place to ask questions and get advice pertaining to the question.

I've changed the subject for you, as you requested and there are lots of very good people who can help advise you with relationship issues. Please give us a chance to help.

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my question was should i got back to my ex after five years. . .

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It's usually not a good idea to get back with an ex. After all, you two broke up for a reason.

Nothing is ever the same as you remember. She's grown away from you and she has someone else.

You think things would be the same as they were five years ago?
The won't. Move on and be happy.

5 years is along time to still be yearning for an ex. Consider how much has probably changed in that period.

I think this may have something to do with the fact that you have not found anyone new, or at least someone that compares to your memories of your ex. Going back in time won't work. She'd probably be just as alien to you as if you had met a new woman.

OP,we are all here on this forum to help but we also made a promise very long ago that we would all try to be better people than we are and we will try to help each other in being so.Hence we prevent profanity and swearing since that takes us back a step.

Like you would be doing if you tried to get back your ex of five years back.Life moves on,if you will only allow it to.And there are many more beautiful souls out there you can meet only if you are willing to look past this girl.Five years is a long time and you really need to develop inner resolve and strength to face your present and future in stead of letting your past drag you back.

Look around,open your eyes to the life ahead and people around.You'll be surprised at the love and peace you can find.

Bad idea. 5 years is a long, LONG time. And you don't even know how her life's been all this time. She may be perfectly happy with her current boyfriend. Why do you feel entitled to show up in her life like those 5 years never existed? She's obviously moved on. I am surprise you haven't. Again, 5 years is way too long to go back.

You need to take a hard look at yourself and your life to find out why you still haven't moved on. Leave the past where it belongs.

Good luck.

Don't know what happened to your other post, but I think you figure where this idea is coming from before you act on it.

What's going on in your life now that makes you think you should go back to a past love that has probably changed a lot over the years? Why are you not excited about exploring new options, and opportunities that are in your life now, or will be?

Thank you all very much for your time, and advice. It could not be more helpful. I am thankful with how much everyone has built themselves up to give back to less fortunate. Thank you for that, and also I have one grave concern though from everyone's answers, I didn't hear a thing about regret? I have been with other woman but BMI is right no one ever compared to those memories, and yes it could be intruding on her, but holding in all this in for the past five years has only made my feelings for her stronger. I am sure everyone can realize how old I am, so ten years from now when Im next to the hill, is regretting that I never got back togethor going to be worst?

Not if you leave the past in the past, enjoy the memories, and make new, and better ones.

Dude there have been many past loves in my life that I think about what if, and if only about. None can compare with the happiness I have had since them, and especially now.

You seem to be stuck for some reason, and those regrets are haunting you, maybe because you never let old feelings go, or have not had a proper healing, or have coped badly with your feelings the last few years. Or maybe you have been go through things that are allowing those feelings of regret to resurface.

Its quite obvious though that you have not been able to build a life that you enjoy, with good positive things to look forward to, so you look back. Do so now, as that's the best way to handle regret and dwelling on the past. You have to have something to look forward to.

P.S. I have all kind of old feelings about past loves when High School reunion rolls around.

There's an old saying that goes "When one door closes another one opens"

It sounds like you aren't allowing that 1st door to close , so by hanging on to the thought of maybe getting her back your actually not allowing yourself to see the many great possibilities that lie ahead , and believe me they are there.

So close that door , then you'll be ready to open a new one.

Good Luck!