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  • Dec 25, 2006, 01:17 AM
    Manabo
    Girl troubles
    Well here's the story. We aren't really dating yet but I have started to get to know her. We met at work and I was the first one to notice her. At work I'm kind of the most well know person because I just simply a nice guy talking to everyone and no one hates me it's a great environment and well I have kind of a loud mouth and I talk a lot so I mention that I liked and yah it got around so I had no choice but to talk to her. Now she is young and shy, and petite while I'm older by two year so that 18 and she's 16. So the first talk was bad, and it went on .like that just talking making her laugh. Then just last week I asked her I f she wanted to go do something and she said she was busy of exams. I thought reasonable excuse okay so then I kind of hesistated and asked so when will you be free, she said she doesn't know so then I got desperated and asked for her number but she could give it too me because her mom was there so I got introduced to her mom.lol it went well small talk just ended it thee and said good bye see yah next week. So later on I have some "spies" so to speak and they told me she taks about me saying I'm cute just small things so I didn't mind it... actually I was glad. So then week went on into the next so this is where it get interesting. On the weeekend I went to a restaurant for lunch with my friends and while I was sitting there my friends started to say hey man that girls is cute check her out and wouldn't you know it it was her.so then the next time I went to work I worked till closing and I saw her mom and the good thing is she absolutely adored me so I'm good with the parents area.lol. Well after that it's the 23 and I asked her is she wanted to do something over the christmas break and guess what I got her number which was sweet. And now it's the 24 I tried to avoid her so on 25 ill call her but the thing is I have been noticing that when I talk to her she is unconfortable like she looks around like she is bored but she laughs at all my jokes.Thats wats got me confused. ALl of the usdden I began to notice these things. She doesn't seem to exicted like doesn't want to be there but she go and talk to me alone. I don't know. My theory is that since I'm older she's shy around me and is afriad to speak but she talks fine to me. Please help me out her. I need advice on the situation.please I know its long story and I apologize but I need help with this.
  • Dec 25, 2006, 01:18 AM
    Manabo
    Girl troubles pt 2
    What are the signs that she is interested?or bored?
  • Dec 25, 2006, 01:23 AM
    Manabo
    Girl troubles pt3
    Wat would be good to do on a first date? What is safe to do and not go too far?I need a detailed tip or step by step procedure. Is there going to be a kiss in the end like in the movies?should I get her a gift? Pay for everything? Is driving a going to be a prob since I can't drive yet but I could get it with in next week?what a good transportation choice if you don't have a car, the parents... hell no right? Clothes to wear? Attitude on the date like flirt constantly? What questions to ask without sounding bored? Conversation I deas? Pleas help me out this is my first girl ever... I seriously have been waiting for this long and I know its lame but come on help me out.
  • Dec 25, 2006, 05:59 AM
    ordinaryguy
    I'd say she sounds interested, but really shy. You may intimidate her with all your talking. Learn to ask her questions, and then really listen to her answers without jumping in and talking about yourself. Don't be afraid of silent spaces in the conversation. Don't rush it, especially if she's the shy type. These things take time. Don't even think about kissing her on the first date. Wait until you're sure she wants it. Relax. Go slow. Listen.
  • Dec 28, 2006, 12:43 PM
    Manabo
    Girl Troubles pt4
    I got her number and I tried calling her on chrismas day. I can tell you for sure that the cov didn't go as planned it was short and sad. And on boxing day I text her asking how goes the shopping but no reply. The next day I saw her but she didn't see me I think so I didn't respond. I feel that she doesn't want anything to happened between us because she shows no interst in getting toknow each other. She doesn't respond to my text and now I feel like ignoring her. Is That the right thing to do? What is your advice? I really want to be with her or at least have her a part of my life somehow.
  • Dec 28, 2006, 02:56 PM
    wizzkid89
    She could just be in a bad mood and misplacing her struggles upon you... However since it has happened over the course of a few days, I would assume that she just doesn't want to be with you. I know it's hard to accept, but she has given signals that seem to indicate she wants to be alone. Don't take it personal, just move on, I know you will be upset, but time will work it out. Good luck

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