So, I have been single for almost a year now. For those who remember, I dated my ex for roughly 2.5 years. Afterwards I rebounded with a girl and decided that I need to stay single for a while to work on myself. The last year I have been having a great time. I finally had the time I needed to do all the things I wanted to do. I worked at a amazing internship, travelled, competed in triathlons, practiced martial arts, etc...

I also dated a little here and there but nothing more than just a night out. Also, I hooked up with a few girls which I am not too proud of, especially since I never saw myself as that type of guy.

Now I am entering my senior year. Lately, I have been thinking more and more about a relationship but I have been very uneasy about it since my past relationship left some scars.

How do I know if I am ready? One side of me really enjoys this time that I have to myself and the freedom. Another side of me misses having someone that I can share my wonderful life with. Also, being a senior in college makes me wonder even if its worth it to be in a relationship since after graduation a lot will change.

Thank you in advance for your help.

You are about as ready for a relationship as anyone can be. You have your life together, you know your priorities, are well past your previuos relationship, and have your feet firmly on the ground. You are not the least bit needy, have tremendous self control, and recognize your strengths and shortcomings. You will not settle for just anyone, so definitely go for it. Life is much more satisfying when you can share it with someone else. Your healthy attitude should be an example for everyone. That is to do what you did, you went out and found yourself, regained your identity, and know what you want out of life. And you also sound smart enough to know that your career will have to be on track before you truly settle down, but you have the right attitude, so good luck.

When you find a girl, and love her, it won't stop you from being in a relationship.

Your ready when you tell yourself your ready.

Keep having fun.
Do what you are doing.

If a situation comes along that leads into a relationship , so be it.

I wouldn't be looking or avoiding in your position.

Just do it if it feels right.

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Originally Posted by beachloverjohn

You are about as ready for a relationship as anyone can be. You have your life together, you know your priorities, are well past your previuos relationship, and have your feet firmly on the ground. You are not the least bit needy, have tremendous self control, and recognize your strengths and shortcomings. You will not settle for just anyone, so definately go for it. Life is much more satisfying when you can share it with someone else. Your healthy attitude should be an example for everyone. That is to do what you did, you went out and found your self, regained your identity, and know what you want out of life. And you also sound smart enough to know that your career will have to be on track before you truly settle down, but you have the right attitude, so good luck.

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Wow, beachloverjohn, that was a very thoughtful comment. Thank you very much.

Of course, you have to meet someone first. I think what you are asking is if you should date and can you handle being serious if you should be lucky enough to find someone you really care about. Only you will truly know when you're ready, and of course it depends on the woman. But mentally, you sound ready.

I think you are ready to be open to a relationship. I wouldn't go looking for one just because you miss having someone there. The feeling of 'needing' to be in a relationship can end up causing you to jump into another relationship without looking first. Pay attention to warning signs and have fun.

If you meet someone and hit it off, then go for it.

Good luck. :)

You're ready for a relationship when you are willing to risk your heart for the opportunity.