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  • Aug 26, 2010, 06:01 PM
    zarlac
    What to do when an adult man get raped by a teen boy
    {Name removed} I am 25 my question is.what do I do when a boy 16 say ?if you don't let me put my **** in you I will say you raped me. well the story go's like this,I'm a skateboarder been doing it for quite some time now,I always skate in the park where I live there's also other skaters in their as well,but its this one skater that always looks at me in a unusual way I paid it no mind.Well he came over to me and we started talking it was all good every day we would skate its funny because I don't unusually skate with any one so a week go by he comes to my house as we're in my room playing a video game I was sitting on my bed he was on the floor next to my foot.I notice how he was moving a lot I asked him was he OK he said? yeah sure I'm fine? In a slick kind of way. Next thing he jumped up forced me back on my bed got on top of me and started grinding on me quickly I pushed him off he said if I didn't let him {vulgarity removed} me.he was going to say I raped him.what 2 do I never touched him
  • Aug 26, 2010, 06:36 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    So you call the police and report him for assult.
  • Aug 27, 2010, 06:27 AM
    JudyKayTee

    So - did you or didn't you?

    (Maybe this is the danger of 25 year old men hanging out with 16 year old boys.)
  • Aug 28, 2010, 03:40 AM
    zarlac
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    So - did you or didn't you?

    (Maybe this is the danger of 25 year old men hanging out with 16 year old boys.)

    I don't normally hang with young teens if I do its with my little brother he's 15. This kid started talking to me he seemed cool at first it never crossed my mind that he would do something like that I mean I'm a grown man we will never think a teenager will try to force themselves on us its usually the other way around man try to have sex with a boy,as far as me iv'e never have and I never will have sex with a young boy or man it just completely wrong this boy caught me off guard.and your right it is a danger for us to hang with young teens but when you're a skater age usually don't matter because no one is thinking about having sex with each other in the skate world its all about having fun.well iv'e learned something just because I'm a grown man don't mean I can't get malested by young teens.I didn't tell the police but I did told his mother every thing. After he never even look at me anymore that is sooo scary.thank u 4 your help really.
  • Aug 28, 2010, 05:06 AM
    ScottGem

    I would also stay away from that skate park. It might be better to still make a police report, because you don't want him to make the report first.
  • Aug 28, 2010, 06:43 AM
    JudyKayTee

    I still don't know if they DID or DID NOT have sex.
  • Aug 28, 2010, 06:53 PM
    zarlac
    No we did not have sex something like that never cross my mind especially with a minor I'm not gay or even close to being a chid malester I do like women's what he try to do really caught me off guard I never thought he would try something like that I know he has a girlfriend the days that we were hanging out she was with us in the park while we were skating,I want to know why he would try something like that what did I do to cause him to attack me? That's my other question.well I did talk to his mother I was afraid of the out come but it turned out good,again for the record, I did not have sexual relations with that boy! Its clear he must have a problem.
  • Aug 28, 2010, 07:02 PM
    zarlac
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    I would also stay away from that skate park. It might be better to still make a police report, because you don't want him to make the report first.

    I wouldn't worry too much about that I had a tape recoder in my top pocket recording me and his mothers conversation so if it balls down to that I have prof I also told his mother that I was going to tell the police but she insisted we keep them out of it so I left it at that we'll see what happens
  • Aug 29, 2010, 07:27 AM
    JudyKayTee

    You are being foolish. The mother CANNOT control where the son goes with this - the Police, for example. Your tape recording of his mother talking to you is proof of exactly nothing other than her opinion. That's the same as tape recording MY opinion. She has NO first-hand knowledge.

    You've received very good, free legal advice - REPORT THIS TO THE POLICE.

    If you choose not to do so, then it's your decision - against all advice.

    On a completely different note - according to you (and I have no reason not to believe you) he approached you for absolutely no reason, with no provocation at all. How do you know he's not approaching YOUNGER "children" who may be abused by him out of ignorance, fear, something else. Don't you feel some responsibility to them?
  • Aug 29, 2010, 05:58 PM
    zarlac
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I still don't know if they DID or DID NOT have sex.

    No we did not have sexual contac I don't believe in having sex with guys or minors its just wrong on so many levels
  • Aug 29, 2010, 06:29 PM
    zarlac
    [QUOTE=JudyKayTee;2503423]You are being foolish. The mother CANNOT control where the son goes with this - the Police, for example. Your tape recording of his mother talking to you is proof of exactly nothing other than her opinion. That's the same as tape recording MY opinion. She has NO first-hand knowledge.

    You've received very good, free legal advice - REPORT THIS TO THE POLICE.

    If you choose not to do so, then it's your decision - against all advice.

    On a completely different note - according to you (and I have no reason not to believe you) you know your right I also talked to my parents they as well insisted I go to the police I'm not going 2 lie I tried 2 keep the police out of it, its hard 4 some one age 2 say a little boy,that's how I see him.tryed to force himself on me I really don't understand this whole ordeal but I'm going 2 do what's right ,and tell the police my parents will be accompanying me for support,I'll keep you inform
  • Aug 29, 2010, 06:48 PM
    zarlac
    [QUOTE=zarlac;2504115]
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    You are being foolish. The mother CANNOT control where the son goes with this - the Police, for example. Your tape recording of his mother talking to you is proof............ you know your right i also talked to my parents they aswell insisted i go to the police im not going 2 lie i tryed 2 keep the police out of it, its hard 4 some one age 2 say a little boy,thats how i see him.tryed to force him self on me i really don't understand this whole ordeal but im going 2 do whats right ,and tell the police my parents will be accompanying me for support,i'll keep you inform

    Man this is too much,all I do is ride my skateboared work and go to school this makes me look at young guys diffrently now.I don't think I'm going to be the same.Its sad because I have a 15 year old brother and I love him but when I look at him I see that boy what is going on with me I feel as if every young kid is after me I haven't rode my skate boared since
  • Aug 30, 2010, 06:18 AM
    JudyKayTee

    Now this is not beginning to add up - you're 25 and in school? What school? At 25 you're old enough NOT to use text speak on AMHD.

    Trust me - all the young kids are NOT after you.

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