I had an abortion 6 weeks ago, I am married and my husband and I went our own ways, I left the state while he stayed here, he had a girl friend and I left for another man, in the end the guy I was dating tried to trap me by getting me pregnant yes I know I should have been on birth control... how ever prior my mine and my husband problems we were trying to conceive for quiet some time, after I learned that I was pregnant while out of state I knew that it wasn't my husbands because I had my period while I drove 1400 miles... the man I was with turned very violent towards me the night after we found out that we were pregnant. He bluntly shoved me in the stomach, across a room I started bleeding right away. I have two children and have always wanted more, being in the situation that I was in trapped and being pregnant not having anyone there other than him and my two kids seeing all of this. There was a decision to be made and I wasn't going to put myself or my kids through hell for the rest of our lives. So yes I had to procedure done I am far from being proud of it and don't want any crap everyone has their own reasons for doing things that they have to do in life... Now I am back home with my husband and no matter what he and I have done while we were apart is in the past. We are going to work our marriage out no matter what it takes.We have been having unprotected sex back to trying to have our baby that we have wanted for so long, I took a test two days ago and it had a very faint second line I took another test today and the line is there for sure, my question is will I carry this baby full term ? Is it possible that I am getting a positive test from hormones that are still in my blood? All of my pregnancy signs went away after having the procedure done and now some of them are back. Any answer would be helpful and if you don't like me for making a better choice for my children and myself keep your mouth shut because if you were getting beat and went through what I just did I wouldn't have anything to say to you other than I am sorry that you had to go through that... you don't know what it mentally does to a mother already that has to go through something as I did.

First let me say that when you post this much information on a public site you not only open yourself for help, but also criticism. You cannot dictate who does and who does not respond here.

Now, in answer to your question. Yes, you can still carry to term after an abortion. There is no reason that you couldn't carry to term.

You poor thing! I would have done the same thing if in your situation, especially if other children are involved. Good luck in the future and with your pregnancy x

I agree with J9, you didn't really need to give all of the information you have given and that to suggests that you are still very stressed out and unhappy about what has happened to you, rightly so. I think that you need to go to a doctor to find out if you are pregnant but while you are there you need to look into support services you can access to help you get through this. For the sake of your next child and the children you have you should consider your mental health as important as your physical health when planning to expand your family. I hope it all works out for you.

It's all about choices.

And, when you post a question, you will get answers. Some you will like, otheres you won't. It is up to you not to accept advice, or to follow advice, or ignore advice. Nobody posting can dictate how a response will be.

The biggest thing I see here, is not so much your past, but, what you have done to improve your current situation with being reunited with your husband. Have you been to counselling? Considered counselling? What makes you think that the second time around, after all the history before, will result in a healthy relationship with him.

And the children. What have you done to help them adjust from going from one home, to another, with all the violence, and then back again. They have lost their father, moved from familiar surroundings, witnessed you being abused, then moved again back home. These transitions are not easy on children, and because they may not seem affected by your actions, does not mean that they aren't.

I don't know why you are considering having another baby so soon. It doesn't make sense to me that you could just tuck away all that has happened, and add another child to the mix right now. My opinion is that having a baby now is not exactly a well thought out plan.

My advice to you, like it or not, is to put your need to have another baby on hold, if you aren't already pregnant. Put the problems that caused the split on the table, and get into counselling with your husband, and work through them. Deal with the past, and all that entailed. Considering there are children involved, this is a family affair. Your actions, and those of your husband, and then the boyfriend etc. affects them too.

There were reasons you did what you did, right from the get go, when you and your husband each took on lovers. How can you just put that behind you. There is a whole history that needs to be worked through, otherwise, in my opinion, none of you will heal from the past. And if that doesn't happen, how can you go into the future, without dealing with it, even if only for the sake of your children. And, having a baby on top of all of this?

But, yes, you can carry a baby full term after an abortion.

Yes a new baby is not an answer, until a couple years to be sure you can work things out. Another baby to perhaps try and make up for the other one is no answer.

You will need to work though the abortion issues, the cheating issues and trying to make up with a hubby. Those will take years to go though, and a baby will only make things worst at this point and time

WOW! You come on here asking for help, but you give conditions, and are outright RUDE about what we should, or shouldn't say.

I'll not judge you for your decisions that you obviously regret, and have to live the rest of your life dealing with. But I will judge you on your attitude. If you come here looking for assistance of any kind, you should be a little more respectful, and tolerant, about your delivery.

Most people here won't even bother to answer your post after reading "don't want any crap" or "keep your mouth shut".

Better luck next time.

(From a Dixie GUY.)