I ahave been on line and read many comments about young adults not speaking with their parents. My middle daughter -23- just graduated college in May and after about 3 weeks at home, stopped speaking to us. She claims I never loved her and favored her sisters. She has weighed out every ounce of time, dollar and emotion I have given to each of them. My husband and I have stayed out of her way the past 6 weeks, she comes and goes with out even a hello, though she doesn't clean anything, she at least picks up her things (usually). She is working part time and going to school part time. She has claimed she is where she is in life because she got their on her own. No college bills after 4 years of private school, no car payment though she drives a jeep liberty, and oh we pay the car insurance and cell phone bill. I know that I have to give her room and let her grow and figure out life, what I need to know is how long do you do this for. I have 2 other daughters, one of which is afraid of her sisters temper and she is verbally abusived by this middle daughter. Any ideas anyone. Thanks and I welcome anyone that could send a prayer. God Bless

I highly suggest that whatever her gripe is, that bad behavior will not be tolerated ever under your roof, and if she doesn't appreciate what she has, take it back, because she can always leave, and do her own thing.

By the way you MUST be very willing to do what you say at the first sign of rebellion, or she will take over your house.

If she feels she got everything on her own, let her be truly on her own.
Tell her she either shapes up and shows some respect or she needs to ship out. Her nasty behavior will no longer be tolerated.

We've all heard the term "spoiled brat"

Who's in charge?

Like you said, she's 23. Old enough to start figuring it out.

"If she feels she got everything on her own, let her be truly on her own."

Lessons not learned in college.