I've been with my girl for 4 yrs now living together for 2 1/2 yrs suddenly she wants time to think and wants a break for a WHILE but wants me to continue living with her the main reason she said is cuase I follow her like a sheep and I tink she just wants to feel independent again we also live in a shared house with 1 other guy she says she loves me and wants to be with me forever but needs at least a few weeks too sort out what's going on with her. As soon as I found out I think I made it worse by being extra clingy but now have realised to just give her space. But its hard because we used to do everything together and live together and a couple of nights ago we went to concert had a great night was cuddling kissing tthen the next day no emotion apparently I was following her like a sheep. Please help me what do I do?

Stop being a sheep! Being needy is EXTREMELY unattractive. If you don't want to lose her, you better get a hobby, hang out with friends, read a book, GET OUT. A relationship is a bonus to your life, not the whole thing...

That is true but more answers please to give me more views please.

Are you still living together?

Yea and sleeping in same bed, her parents just split up after 45 yrs could this have some affect?


Please help?

Probably, but you better get your act together fast, because she has already told you to stop being so needy, and clingy, and following her around like a sheep. That means back off, and give her some alone time, so she doesn't feel smothered. If she wants to sit in a room by herself then let her. You have to understand that things have changed, and you must adjust to the new circumstances, or drive her away.

Thanks she now wants to sleep in different rooms I suppose all I can do is give her space but I know she still wants to get back with me in amonth or so she said so she said it s more of a time out thing.

Not a good sign, but you can't change her mind.

Here's what you do. Start packing up all your stuff and find anothr place to live. If she still wants you, she will stop you. This is how you gewt her back on your terms. This might not work, and you will find yourself on the street, but that's the chance you have to take. Sounds like she wants it to be over. Women can really be cruel. Might as well face it though. You can't keep living under the same roof the way it is now.

We are still sleeping in same bed but she calls me 2 3 even 4 times a day and acts pretty much like we are normal except when I try to get close its really weird I've started doing my own thing sort of but all our friends are the same its hard going to go away for the weekend hopefully it will help...

Anymore help?

What is the update? Has she said anything since?

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Originally Posted by beachloverjohn

Here's what you do. Start packing up all your stuff and find anothr place to live. If she still wants you, she will stop you. this is how you gewt her back on your terms.

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I don't agree. Sounds like game playing.

Move out because you think its best for you. Not to try and get her back.