Ask Me Help Desk - I love my step sister too much

right this is hard when I was 14 years old my step sister was 19 and we used to be really close but before our parents got married I fancied her but now we are so far apart I can't explain it I still love her like a real sister but we argue all the time help

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Originally Posted by rhodriM68

right this is hard when i was 14 years old my step sister was 19 and we used to be really close but before our parents got married i fancied her but now we are so far apart i can't explain it i still love her like a real sister but we argue all the time help

I'm not sure what the problem is here.

You had a close relationship with your now, step sister, who is five years older than you. How old are you now, and what do you mean by 'really close'- in a sexual way?

You love her you say, as a sister, but, what's with the arguing since your parents got married. You say you fancied her before becoming her stepbrother, is that what the real problem is?

If the two of you fancied each other as boyfriend/girlfriend it would have been inappropriate anyway because at the time, you were a minor, and she was an adult. It would still be inappropriate to have feelings toward her now, as your step sister. I think- but I'm not sure about how that works out in the wash legally.

Can you explain a little more what you think is the reason why you no longer get along? Is it because your relationship has gone from boyfriend/girlfriend, to brother/sister?

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Originally Posted by Jake2008

I'm not sure what the problem is here.

You had a close relationship with your now, step sister, who is five years older than you. How old are you now, and what do you mean by 'really close'- in a sexual way?

You love her you say, as a sister, but, what's with the arguing since your parents got married. You say you fancied her before becoming her stepbrother, is that what the real problem is?

If the two of you fancied eachother as boyfriend/girlfriend it would have been inappropriate anyway because at the time, you were a minor, and she was an adult. It would still be inappropriate to have feelings toward her now, as your step sister. I think- but I'm not sure about how that works out in the wash legally.

Can you explain a little more what you think is the reason why you no longer get along? Is it because your relationship has gone from boyfriend/girlfriend, to brother/sister?

Sorry I didn't explain much but we never were like boyfriend/girlfriend its just we would tell each other everything

Before our parents got married I fancied her but not sexual because I was 7 at the time as soon as our pareents got married I didn't fancy her because it would have been weird

Its just the other day her father died and now we should be really close because if she got any problems I would be able to help her

But neither of us have a problem with each other but we just don't get along

She says she still loves me like her brother and I still love her likke a sister but we can't even look at each other

By the way I am17 she is 22

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Originally Posted by Jake2008

I'm not sure what the problem is here.

You had a close relationship with your now, step sister, who is five years older than you. How old are you now, and what do you mean by 'really close'- in a sexual way?

You love her you say, as a sister, but, what's with the arguing since your parents got married. You say you fancied her before becoming her stepbrother, is that what the real problem is?

If the two of you fancied eachother as boyfriend/girlfriend it would have been inappropriate anyway because at the time, you were a minor, and she was an adult. It would still be inappropriate to have feelings toward her now, as your step sister. I think- but I'm not sure about how that works out in the wash legally.

Can you explain a little more what you think is the reason why you no longer get along? Is it because your relationship has gone from boyfriend/girlfriend, to brother/sister?

Thanks for the help

It's not weird to love your step sister, more than a sister... Because she isn't really your sister, she's the daughter of the person that married your parent after your first mother/father... I mean, what if your parents hadn't gotten married, would it still be weird? Because if you think that, then you're pretty adolescent...