Is this harassment?
My ex (whom I was never married to but have a 4 year old with) is constantly emailing/texting me that I am a "bad Parent" "unethical" and that I need to "find god" because he doesn't like that things aren't going his way. He should and could be diagnosed clinically as a narcissist (sp?). (example.. he had posted on his myspace that he was a sexual predator and a picture of himself with a gun to his own head.. to get a rise out of people/attention). He has a criminal record and has served time. Most recently, he was cited for not buckling his child (daughter from new relationship) in a car seat while on the highway.
We (me and my husband) host webcam visits 3 nights a week for my son and his father who have always lived in different states. I have full custody and his father has visitation rights. I am not sure if he just doesn't understand that a 4 year old isn't going to Always give him his attention or why he is so mad that my son doesn't always "talk" during visits. He wrongly assumes that we have told my son to hate him and act accordingly. We have tried to tell his father that we encourage their communication (which we do) and that my son has to stop playing games, turn of the TV, come in from outside, miss events etc because of the ordered webcam visits and that perhaps a 4 year old finds more excitement in these things, then talking to someone on a webcam regardless of who it is. When my son was born, my ex threatened to "take him back to his home state and I would never see him again and have no rights." (we have this vm on tape).

Somehow we have to communicate because of our son and when he does get visitation, I have to fly my son out there and do the exchange, so its not like a restraining order would do any good. I feel like we are constantly being harassed and it has caused torment on my marriage, is there anything we can do?

Are you telling us that the webcam visits were ORDERED by the Judge or was this just something you and this guy decided upon?

If the webcam visits were not court ordered change your cell phone number and email address and let him correspond with him via regular telephone (land line) and snail mail.

Did the Court also Order you to fly your son so he could have visitation with his father? Why can't the father come and get him for the visits?

Webcam visits are ordered 3 X per week. I was also ordered to fly him there for some of the visits.. and even pay for it.. some of the time

You can still change your cell phone number so you won't keep getting nasty text messages.