Boyfriend gets angry when I worry about him...
Hello! My boyfriend of 3+ years get upset when I worry about him. Is that normal? EXAMPLE: Normally we talk to each other at some point after work and again before we go to bed, although he says Im not allowed to expect that I can talk to him each day. Have any expectations of when/frequency of when we speak to each other. Also, he is attached to his cell phone and is always checking his email, headlines, Facebook, email etc. With those two things being said, in my 3 + years of dating him I have never not been able to get a hold of him either via text, email, or phone. Last night I spoke to him around 7pm and he was still at work. Around 10:30, I still haven't heard from him and I was wanting to go to bed soon, so I called him. I also sent a text shortly after that said Im sure your probably busy, I'm just worried could you please text back and let me know that your OK. 11, 11:30 rolls by, call again, send a few more texts... NOTHING. As this is NOT like him to at least be checking his phone for email, Facebook etc around 1:00 am I become extrmely WORRIED about him and if he is OK. Not knowing if he ever even made it home safely from work. He mentioned that he frequents this bar near him on Monday nights. Because it was so uncommon for these things to happen, I call the bar and fighting back tears, tell the person answering that Im really worried about my boyfriend, Im not sure if he made it home from work, and its not like him to not have his phone and asked if she knew if he was there. She asked for his name and a description and when I told her, she said Does he live in XXX apartment community in aptX, then Yeah he was here. I responded, oh thank god, I was worried that he wasn't OK. She then offered that he had been there drinking for a while, but that he should have been OK to drive home.
Because of my worry for his safety I called the bar. Was that wrong of me? My motives were completely sincere and had NOTHING to do with checking up on him, etc. Do I deserve to have him yealling and angry at me for it? He says if anyone else did that they would break up with their girflfriend asap. What are your thoughts?