So my daughter is in a group of bffl's... and two of them are fighting and have been for the entire summer. They'd been bff's since they were in preschool. Jarry didn't want to go to prom because she felt like it wasn't going to be for for her for so many reasons (trying to be brief... ) Sharon was going with her boyfriend. Sharon was concerned that Jarry would regret it in her future, thinking that it could be an event that she shouldn't miss or have any regret doing so. Jarry felt like proms were "cheesy". My daughter told them both that they each need to do what is best for their personal choice and just be accepting of one another. The argument became so big... Sharon was being mean about Jarry's choice and Jarry had ultimately decided that Sharon was someone she needed to not talk to anymore if she didn't support her choice to not go to prom. My daughter was watching their friendship fall apart. Now they blame my daughter for getting involved and offering both of them advice... Jarry wants to make amends now and forge a new friendship. Sharon doesn't yet know that Jarry want to contact her. My daughter is happy that there might be a chance that they can all be a girl group again. Should my daughter have not offered advice... even though Jarry asked for it? Sharon never asked so she never offered. P.S.: Sharon was never all that nice to Jarry in their long term relationship over the years. Jarry was always putting up with a lot of Sharon's bad behavior, ie: stealing bf's from her. What should I tell my daughter without getting overly involved? Thanks in advance. :)

Sorry error! Jarry didn't want to go to prom cause she felt like it wasn't going to be FUN for her, (is what I meant).

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Originally Posted by SweetDee

So my daughter is in a group of bffl's...and two of them are fighting and have been for the entire summer. They'd been bff's since they were in preschool. Jarry didn't wanna go to prom because she felt like it wasn't going to be for for her for so many reasons (trying to be brief...) Sharon was going with her bf. Sharon was concerned that Jarry would regret it in her future, thinking that it could be an event that she shouldn't miss or have any regret doing so. Jarry felt like proms were "cheesy". My daughter told them both that they each need to do what is best for their personal choice and just be accepting of one another. The arguement became so big... Sharon was being mean about Jarry's choice and Jarry had ultimately decided that Sharon was someone she needed to not talk to anymore if she didn't support her choice to not go to prom. My daughter was watching their friendship fall apart. Now they blame my daughter for getting involved and offering both of them advice... Jarry wants to make amends now and forge a new friendship. Sharon doesn't yet know that Jarry want to contact her. My daughter is happy that there might be a chance that they can all be a girl group again. Should my daughter have not offered advice...even tho Jarry asked for it? Sharon never asked so she never offered. P.S.: Sharon was never all that nice to Jarry in their long term relationship over the years. Jarry was always putting up with a lot of Sharon's bad behavior, ie: stealing bf's from her. What should I tell my daughter without getting overly involved? Thanks in advance. :)

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Your chat speak makes it difficult to clearly understand all of what you are asking.Could you please rewrite this post without all that?

There is an edit button for some if not all posts(as I am not 100% on that for question posts), non-the-less.Please look back at the site guidelines as to the rules about chat speak.

Teenagers would not be happy unless there was drama.

They can't help but get involved in each others business,I understand your daughters advice was sought,I was referring to the others.

The best thing you can do is let her figure the whole thing out herself.

Be an ear to listen too,be wise giving your advice.

In future she may want to consider who she gives advice to and who to trust.

It's a hard lesson to learn,but one that she has to learn on her own.

What's a bffl?

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Originally Posted by J_9

What's a bffl?

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Best friends forever, best friends.. not sure what the 'l' stands for though.

It's best friends for life

I guess I can tell you what I told my daughter when she was a teen and I do myself.
If someone ask for your advice, ask them " do you want to know what I think, or do you want me to tell you what you want to hear?"
Be honest in what you say, be kind hearted in what you say and if they don't like it, it's their problem not yours. Tell them to not ask for advice from you again.
Teens get pissed off at so much little stuff one day and they are back to being friends the next.

when you had teens you have to learn how to understand their abbreviated chats...

bffl=best friends for life
bff=best friends forever
bf=boy friend


sorry about not adding their meaning earlier... I just thought on this teen section everyone would already have the "speak".

Thanks to all for the advice. It's greatly appreciated. Ttyl!! (talk to you later! Lol) ;)

On this site text speak is not allowed.
I also think it important for teens to know how to communicate in a way everyone knows what they are saying.
I simply guessed at what was being asked.
The best way for us to help is to understand what is being said, not guess.

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Originally Posted by SweetDee

when you had teens you have to learn how to understand their abbreviated chats...

bffl=best friends for life
bff=best friends forever
bf=boy friend


sorry about not adding their meaning earlier...i just thought on this teen section everyone would already have the "speak".

Thanks to all for the advice. It's greatly appreciated. ttyl!!! (talk to you later! lol) ;)

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Its an international site,some 'teen speak' varies from country to country,although all teens have similar problems.

Best of luck with your daughter.:)

I had no idea that text speak was not allowed. Now I know and I will keep it in mind. Thanks for the heads up... :)