Ask Me Help Desk - I creeped out a girl!

I creeped out a girl!!

OK so this happened a while ago and I need outside consultation. I hooked up with a girl at a party, I got her number and we texted a couple times that night. Then, I sent her a couple of bull**** fb messages asking her if she wanted to I like get coffee or something sometime. She said yes, so I texted her a couple of times over the weekend too see if she wanted to chill. This was mainly pressure from my friends to make a move on her. She responds to the texts but doesn't really seem interested. So, I see her at starbucks and it was really awkward because this was a while after everything had happened and so I re introduced myself,(I know now I'm a retard for doing that). We talked for a few minutes and then as I was leaving I made some awkward statement and she just laughed, I don't even remember what the **** I said. I saw her again and she waived and smiled like she wanted to talk to me or something. I was late for class so I didn't catch up with her and just waved back. Anyway, I sent her a happy valentines day message to her on fb (again probably not a great idea,which is further justification that I might actually be a retard). I guess she told one of her friends that told my friend that she had regretted hooking up with me, she really didn't enjoy my text messages blah blah, and that I creeped her out. I was pretty devastated when I heard this bit of news, not so much about what I did but how I made her feel is what made me upset, I just again felt sooo dumb. I barely know this ****ing girl so it really doesn't matter anymore but how do I not turn my next episode with a girl into a ****in mess. Thanks for suggestions... I ****ing hate doing this but I need some insight outside of my group of friends.

Really, is all the swearing necessary? And by calling yourself a "retard" you have offended some of us who have mentally challenged family members.

Yeah, you creeped me out too.

If you write your text messages like you wrote your question, most likely they felt you were not up to their level.

And not sure what your meaning of "hooking up" or what your ages are.

But perhaps less text, more talking and trying to actual discuss things and talk about your day.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Really, is all the swearing necessary? And by calling yourself a "retard" you have offended some of us who have mentally challenged family members.

Yeah, you creeped me out too.

Apologiees I will change the wording

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

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I don't want it on her though

Had you read the Terms of Service when you signed up, like you were supposed to, you would have read that posts are to be considered permanent.

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I think you should be ashamed of yourself for using the word "retard". I think a lot of children who have handicaps or are physically or mentally challenged are a whole lot smarter than you.

Aim,

You creeped this girl out with your language and attitude. If you want to date a woman, treat her with respect.

You seem stalkerish with continuous FB messages to a girl you hardly know.

The ball is in her court now. If she contacts you, great. If she doesn't, consider it a lesson learned.

You may have creeped her out in any number of ways.

How were you dressed?
Did you use the "colorful " language you used here to try and make an impression?

How many piercings and tats do you have?

Do you shower more than once a week?

Do you realize that your first impression with the people here was somewhat lacking due to the language and thoughtless name calling

(Retard is the offensive title you used)

You are entitled to say anything , in any way you want to according to our Constitution , and I will defend that right to the death.

But with that right comes the responsibility to understand that because you have the right to say it ,it doesn't mean anybody has to like it .And they also have the freedom to react as they wish and say to you whatever they feel they need to say .

You creeped several people out here by using that language.
And not just saying those words, which takes little effort, you took the time and effort to write it out. Is it that important that you can't express yourself without using words that you know are offensive to many people?

And YOU came HERE . To ask for advice, a favor from people who donate the time and effort it takes to make this site the success that it is. And it takes more time and effort than most anybody would imagine.

Did it really not occur to you that it may be better to TRY and make a good first impression instead of TRYING to be shocking and offensive?
It would have saved us all a lot of time and effort. Don't you agree?

But back to your question:

Maybe you should ask her. What do you have to lose?
And you may gain some valuable information on how not to creep people out.

I wish you well and the ability to see the obvious.:cool:

If all you did was text, with no follow through, like in person, or over the telephone, you have done nothing to make her think you are real, or serious because your actions don't match your words. And be careful, as the others have said about how you express yourself. Is always best to put your best foot forward with strangers, or new people you meet.