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  • Aug 13, 2010, 08:53 PM
    quinidine
    My girlfriend
    Hello, I`m sorry bcoz my english isn`t so good.. I have a problem.. I have a girlfriend and we`ve been together for 3years.. we were happy until one day I knew she out with her ex..
    And latter, I read her messages from her another ex.. and they look happy and it was my girlfriend first messaged her ex.. since then, we fight a lot and I pretend like I don`t really care about her (actually I really love her, I just need more attention)

    Now I am 3rd year medical student and she takes dentistry course. I have my study abroad and she stay in my country. The problem is she seems to be very busy and I try to give her support.. and she does not believe in me and she said everything I have done to give her support just becoz I don't have any friends anymore(actually I`m quite a jerk).. she brought the point I didn't care about her before and I try to explain to her I didn't mean that but it appears to be meaningless..

    Now she said she still loves me but she want me to leave her becoz (I think) she need space.. I told her, I`ll give her space and when she needs me, just find me and I`ll always be there for her.. but I don't know how long I can keep waiting..
    What should I do? I don't think I can leave her becoz she needs support (actually I don't really know what am I suppose to do) sometimes, I think I`m the problem here becoz I`m the one who needs extra attention.. I got someone (not her) waiting for me.. should I just move on or what? She always keep me waiting and I don't know till when..
    Please help me.. I really appreciate your help and kindness.. thanks a lot
  • Aug 13, 2010, 09:02 PM
    Alty

    Sounds like she put up with your behavior for 3 years and she finally had enough.

    A break is usually a nice way of saying "I don't want to be with you any more".

    It's over. Go on with your life.
  • Aug 13, 2010, 10:21 PM
    quinidine

    Is there any hope?
  • Aug 13, 2010, 10:30 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by quinidine View Post
    is there any hope?

    I don't think so. Move on and let her do the same.
  • Aug 13, 2010, 10:39 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by quinidine View Post
    is there any hope?

    Only she knows that. We can only go by what you told us, and the way these things usually play out.

    History shows that when someone says they want a break, what they're really saying is that they want to break up. But there are always exceptions to the rule.

    If you really want to know what she's thinking, talk to her, tell her that you're tired of waiting, and if she wants to be with you it's time for her to fish or cut bait. If she's honest with herself and you, you should have your answer.
  • Aug 14, 2010, 04:38 AM
    talaniman

    She probably has better things to do with her time than put up with a jerk who isn't even there. I suggest you leave her alone, as she has asked you.
  • Aug 14, 2010, 05:23 AM
    Devorameira

    Seems like the relationship is over, so accept it and move on and concentrate on your studies.
  • Aug 14, 2010, 10:22 AM
    Kitkat22

    She's had it! She doesn't want you anymore. It happens. Sorry.
  • Aug 14, 2010, 11:17 AM
    Homegirl 50

    I suggest you go on with your life as she has with hers.
    Your relationship has run it's course. Time to move on.

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