Help my 5 year old daughter has tantrums over NOTHING...
I am a "singe" mother with two children my daughter is 5 years old (going on 60 with the mind of a 16 year old!) and my son is 4 months. Lately the tantrums have been getting more intense and last twice as long as before. She can go from being happy, cheerful and pleasant to a Tasmanian devil in a matter of seconds!
A few days ago I heated up some left over pizza and took the last 3 small pieces for myself, and she came into the kitchen and flipped out (she was screaming like she was getting beat). She had never asked for a slice nor did she mention she wanted any before I heated it up. She just freaked out saying "i wanted some pizza". When she's hungry and we are not able to get to food right away (this usually happens when we see a Mcds) she goes on and on about "throwing up if I dont eat" (when she's sick and doesn't eat she gets that way). There are times she will be playing and then come in and ask for something or for me or someone to do something and if we are busy she has a complete meltdown.
I love her so much, but at times I don't want to be near her at all! I hate how that makes me feel as a mother because I would do ANYTHING for her. I try my hardest not to give in and it can be hard. I am not sure how her Dad is about giving her everything that she wants (we are not together). I do know that my Aunty (her other main care giver... my aunt loves to take her most weekends and during summer breaks to keep her super busy as) but its really hard for my Aunt to listen to the screaming or rather screeching for a very long period, her blood pressure gets up and she gets mad fast and that's not good for her as she is suppose to keep her blood pressure down. If I took her over nights with my aunt I would lose out on the time I so desperately need away from her to relax and recharge.
From the moment she is up she is UP until she's passing out while playing! She can just GO GO GO. There does not seem to be a pattern as to when or what sets off her moods, we thought it was maybe her sugar levels.. nope... sleep deprivation.. again no! She got a good solid 12 hours one night and still had a melt down! I should mention that I do try to take her to movies, shopping, walks, park as much as I can. When ever I can I try to do things with JUST HER! I love having just us time, but she is always wanting to include her brother. My doctor said this is a normal stage and to keep her busy busy busy... but with school starting up in a few weeks, having a new baby and very little money to spend on other activities... what would your suggestions be?
I have tried the 3 strikes no check today... I have tried options (if you don't pick up your toy we cannot go to the park... but if you pick up your toy we can go out.. its up to you) I have tried time outs.. but having to constantly pick up your 50 pound kid and put her back down the hall in her spot, or stand there and get kicked.. or have her screaming her head off because you will not give her her way can get rather painful! She is also a very smart girl and knows her words, she has some very large words in her vocabulary and knows how to use them well for her age.
Any suggestions on what activities helped your child would be great, or even techniques that helped with the disciplining. Also spanking does not work for her, taking toys away only causes her to scream.. but eventually she does what she is told to get them back but she just does it over and over again anyway.
Thank you :)