Ask Me Help Desk - I love him but how do I tell him?

So I love this guy who used to love me when we were young. I don't really know if he still loves me, but I do!oh and by the way, our families know each other and they both don't allow us to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. So I just wasn't him to know that I love him. But of course with out saying it. He is older than me by a month I guess. I'm 12. We lived together for about 10 but then he moved to another country. What do I do? I only have his email and Facebook. He is shy so he doesn't chat with me on msn, although he talks to my older sister. Does that mean he hates me? But whenever I'm with him, he seemes nervous but then he acts cool :P anyway what do I do? Please help!

Just be a friend for now and see what happens. How old is your sister? He may talk to her more because he is closer to her age. That wouldn't mean he hates you at all, just that maybe he has more in common with her.

Remember that what the two of you felt when you were younger may not be what he feels now. Young people find they will like different people over the years... you will likely find some boys you think are cute and would like to get to know better once school starts again.

Doesn't mean you don't care for this boy, it sounds like he was one of your first crushes and those are always remembered!

Chat with him online once in awhile, talk about school, things you like to do, hanging out with friends, etc.. If he likes you as much as you do him, you will know soon enough. If he is not really interested, you will figure that out too.
In the meantime, don't focus just on him, get to know other people at school or where you live too and enjoy making other friends.

Thanks I'll try :)
And my sister is 14 years old...
Thanks again :)

Just try to be his on-line friend and DO NOT tell him you love him or you'll run him off.

You're really young and have plenty of time! Slow down!

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Originally Posted by Devorameira

Just try to be his on-line friend and DO NOT tell him you love him or you'll run him off.

You're really young and have plenty of time! Slow down!

Ok thanks :)
I'll try.. ;)

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Originally Posted by ROroROro

so I love this guy who used to love me when we were young. I don't really know if he still loves me, but I do!

How do you know he loved you?

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oh and by the way, our families know each other and they both don't allow us to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. So I just wasn't him to know that I love him. But of course with out saying it. He is older than me by a month I guess. I'm 12. We lived together for about 10 but then he moved to another country. What do I do?

You can't really do anythiing about it. You can't really have a relationship with him because he is far away. If you were say 10 years older then there would be a chance because both of you are older and are allowed to date by then ;)

But for now maintain being friends.

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I only have his email and Facebook. He is shy so he doesn't chat with me on msn, although he talks to my older sister.

Haha looks like he likes your sister. He's so shy and he doesn't talk to you? And he loved you?? That doesn't add up kiddo.

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Does that mean he hates me? But whenever I'm with him, he seemes nervous but then he acts cool :P anyway what do I do? Please help!

Okay well I say stay friends and start paying attention to guys that are in your city. This guy doesn't hate you... he's probably just not interested.

Either way you are 12 so you have a long life of boy trouble.

Trust me.

Don't get so carried away by this love thing because you don't know how he feels, only how you feel, plus the distance is going to keep you apart and neither of you is allowed to date so just be friends and keep your feelings to yourself.

You will have many very strong intense feelings in the next few years and this is just the start of them.

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Originally Posted by mudweiser

How do you know he loved you?

You can't really do anythiing about it. You can't really have a relationship with him because he is far away. If you were say 10 years older then there would be a chance because both of you are older and are allowed to date by then ;)

But for now maintain being friends.

Haha looks like he likes your sister. He's so shy and he doesn't talk to you? And he loved you??? That doesn't add up kiddo.

Okay well I say stay friends and start paying attention to guys that are in your city. This guy doesn't hate you... he's probably just not interested.

Either way you are 12 so you have a long life of boy trouble.

Trust me.

Thanks :)
OK... I knew he liked me when wewere young because he used to say that he will marry me. I know it probably wouldn't make sense because he is shy, but seriously, he changed.
I don't really know why he doesn't start a converstation with me on MSN but I think it has something to do with his parents. His parents are really strict with him about girls.
I asked my sister about what they talk about when she chats with him. She said that they only talk when his parents aren't there.
When I find my sister talking to him, I go online and see if he'll say something, but he never did :S
Thanks anyway. But please just answer this last question:
Do you think he still likes me?
Yes or No only!
Thanks.. :)
I trust your answer ;)

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Don't get so carried away by this love thing because you don't know how he feels, only how you feel, plus the distance is going to keep you apart and neither of you is allowed to date so just be friends and keep your feelings to yourself.

You will have many very strong intense feelings in the next few years and this is just the start of them.

You know, I kept it to myself all those years :(
I just told my friends about it but because they don't know him, they didn't really help in anyway :(
I will try to keep it to myslef a little longer, but it hurts :(
I met a great guy in my school and I like him but he doesn't...
That's why that guy is my only hope because he used to like me :(
I just hope he still likes me :(
Thanks anyway :)

Then there is this post.

Help me!

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A few weeks ago, I found out that a guy in my school sent me a relationship request on Facebook.
I don't really like him though... I decided to leave the request and talk to my friend. My friend told me to ignore that request if I'm not into him.
I don't like him, I like his best friend. So I sent him a message and told him that I don't really want to enter a relationship now.
The next day, one of his class mates came running to me while I was sitting with my friends in the morning. He kept on teasing me and telling me that the boy and I will get married and have babies. I was really embaressed and angry!
I went staright to the guy and told him to tell all his friends that I don't like him at all. Then, my stupid friend came running to me and said: 'yeah she doesn't like YOU! She likes your best friend *his best friends name*! '
I was so embaressed!
Everyone in the play ground started saying that I have a crush on him and it turns out he doesn't... It didn't make a difference to me actually! I was just so angry to say anything to them.
Until now, even though it's summer, I keep getting those message from some of the boys in my class saying that the guy who I used to have a crush on wants to meet me. I really hate them! I don't like the guy anymore! I don't next year to be the same!
Then today one guy sent me a message on Facebook telling me that he likes me and that he doesn't wants to tell any one but he just wants to know what I think about him. What should I say?? I'm scared that if I say that he is cool then the same thing will happen again. And if I just ignore it like I did to the request, everything will get ruind and they will all think I'm a *****. I can't say I don't like him. I can't do that to any one. No matter how much I hate them!
Help me if you can!

I came across your other post, and it confirms what I was saying before about all the feelings you will have to cope with, and now you are.

Its not unusual to have strong feelings for many, especially at your age, but the trick is to keep your feeling to yourself, and MAYBE a good friend, until you have made up your own mind, and know what those feelings are about.

The thing about these strong new feelings is that sometimes they fade, as quick as they come, and are prone to a lot of changing over time. The thing you have to decide is what to do about them, and not just act foolishly because of them.

To accomplish that, think before you act. Its part of the normal growing up process. Try to enjoy it, and the attention, and good luck with the pimples, they are also a part of the growing process.

It's OK to think a boy is cute, to be friends with a boy, but it is way too early to be thinking steady boyfriend and girlfriend type relationships.

As you have already seen, at a young age, these situations usually end up with people being teased, feeling angry or embarrassed, and wondering who they can trust.

As you get older, your friends won't be telling boys who you like or don't like, people won't tease you because you like someone, and you won't feel embarrassed about liking a boy.

I know it's hard... boys can be just so darn cute sometimes and it feels good when you know someone likes you... :) You are going to like different boys over the years... probably at least a few different ones this year alone! Some will like you back, some won't. Try not to be in a hurry to have a "boyfriend". Get to know different boys, find out what you like about them and don't like. See who you can trust to not tease or make fun of your feelings.

Be careful with the boys online. People often say things online that they wouldn't say in person, and some people are not always truthful because it is easier to lie when you aren't face to face.

Be friendly to them, but play it cool. Try not to get caught up in someone liking you and give too much personal information, or let your feelings get carried away.
Keep it fun... and not so serious.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

I came across your other post, and it confirms what I was saying before about all the feelings you will have to cope with, and now you are.

Its not unusual to have strong feelings for many, especially at your age, but the trick is to keep your feeling to yourself, and MAYBE a good friend, until you have made up your own mind, and know what those feelings are about.

The thing about these strong new feelings is that sometimes they fade, as quick as they come, and are prone to a lot of changing over time. The thing you have to decide is what to do about them, and not just act foolishly because of them.

To accomplish that, think before you act. Its part of the normal growing up process. Try to enjoy it, and the attention, and good luck with the pimples, they are also a part of the growing process.

Thanks :) For everything :)
You answered all my questions :)
Thanks again :)