OK so my girlfriedn and I have made it clear to each other plenty of times that if we talk to our exs that its only OK if there not hiting on us and trying to get me or her back.so she is on myspace and I'm next to her and she's talking to a guy and he saying things like I want you back etc... and she's talking back to him and we both said once they do that we stop talking to them because it not right.but she dose any way.then I see a few messages he says "i want you back" then all she says is "i dont know"also then she says text me I still got the same number.so I'm really mad because I feel that she is not staying committed to us and I don't understand why you would want to be hit on by your ex.so I talked to her and she says he just wants someone to talk to because he's having a rough timethen she says I'm over reacting.and on top of that I didn't no who he was until I saw that message saying I wany you back.so I play dumb and say "oh whos that" I ask it twice and both times she replies with "huh" so am I over reacting the big reason I'm mad is because I don't talk to my exs if the email me I don't reply.so I feel sort of cheated because here I am doing what's right and she's not... I need help

... Obviously, if your girlfriend is asked, "I want you back," and she replies, "I don't know," there's a problem. USUALLY, what's expected of her would be, "Sorry, I have a boyfriend."

Yea she told him that she got a boyfriend but he stll hit on her saying all this bs.so I didn't over react did I?

You got two options.

1. Ignore it, hope it passes.

2. Talk to her about it.

Option number 2, however, can take a turn for the worse if you start accusing her or she gets defensive, and thus, turn into a big fight.

I would ignore it, act like it doesn't bother you. If you trust her, then let it be.

Trust her and get over it.

If you don't trust her, then try to repair the damage.

If you can't repair the damage, then this relationship is over one way or another.

I'm not really sure how you can trust ANYONE with an ex. It's just too easy, too comfortable. Anytime something goes bad in your relationship, this guy will be all over it. You two really don't stand a chance if she's going to let this guy in like this. I'd skip all the talk-it-out, give-her-an-ultimatum blah-blah-blah bs and move on. Emotionally, she's already cheating on you -- "she says he just wants someone to talk to because hes having a rough time" -- if she wants to play around with the idea of getting back with her ex, let the ex have her, she's not worth the fight.

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You sure have a lot of issues if this is about the same girl. Wonder what you have going besides the sex? Or the ex!! (?)

Well we have a lot of issues but were trying to work on them it seems every time we make progress its not enough.like our comunication is bad and our undrstanding of situations is different very different.like I talked to her and explained to her how I feel, I told her that I felt that she broke a commitment that we had for a ex that's direspecting me by hitting on you and he knows that you have a boyfriend, this guy that you say means nothing to you but you were quick to be there for him and remind him of your number.she told me that she told him plenty of times that him and her won't be getting together.and its true but I still feel that's not enough because she thinks as long as she's not flirting back that she's not doing anything wrong but to me it is and it seems like she doesn't understand why and doesn't want to do what I asked but I have done it for her inm the past

I have read your other posts, and this is but the latest thing. Ask yourself why she would go even keep talking to someone that wanted her? Ask her what she gets out of it? That's not friendship, so don't fall for that.

Your choice what you do about it, but if you put up with bad behavior, that's what you will keep getting.