Okay I am 13 years old and I really like this guy and he really liked me so we kind of showed each other our parts and I know it is the wrong thing but I really like this guy and I just can't choose what to do either to fillow my heart and stay hanging with him or to stop being friends with hi
But if I stop being friends with him its going to make me sad and him sad and we will only want each other more I mean we told each other so many things and I am afraid if I stop talking to him I will never get another friendship like this one and if I stop talking to him I won't have a guys point of view of things and having a guys point of view is great we just understand each other very well my friemds tell me its all a trick but I think they are right but my heart wants to believe that they are wrong HELP what should I do?

How old is he?
Regardless of his age it is not proper to be exposing yourself to anyone at your age.

A guy who asks you to do this or participates is not the kind you want around or need opinions from.

Stick with your girlfriends or groups of friends until you get a little older (2 or 3 years at least) before you get too involved with boys.

Stop doing what you did with him and stay away from him and those like him.
They will bring you nothing but trouble.

Im a little confused here. What is all the drama about? Are you trying to say you want him for a boyfriend and not just friends? Also does he keep asking you personal things that he shouldn't and you feel pressured? What's going on?

I'm with Califdad here, not sure what's going on. How old is he? And you're right, you shouldn't being showing anyone your "parts".

Can you explain the situation a little better? Are you wanting to be friends with him, or be in a relationship with him?

At 13 I personally think you are a bit too young to have "relationships", there is so much time for this in the future. Depending on his age, and his motives, why not keep him as a friend, and let your feelings mature as you do?

I'm more concerned whether all you did was "show". And more importantly who's idea was it and how old he is.

It sounds to me like he took advantage of knowing you liked him. And, if that's the case, then he's not worth even being a friend.

Well, it depends on how old he is. If he is your age then you aren't bad, you just did a silly thing. If he more than couple years older than you, then he did a bad thing. You should only do things that you feel comfortable with.
If he is your age, It is normal to feel like this is a very important relationship. Enjoy the feeling of being in love.

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Well, it depends on how old he is. If he is your age then you aren't bad, you just did a silly thing. If he more than couple years older than you, then he did a bad thing. You should only do things that you feel comfortable with.
If he is your age, It is normal to feel like this is a very important relationship. Enjoy the feeling of being in love.

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The problem here is, at 13, she can't really be sure she knows what love is. Sure she may feel in love, but at 13 I think its more a matter of wanting to emulate adults and grow up too fast.

I don't think that the question was conveyed very well...

But from what I understand,
1) You're way too young to get in a relationship because at this age, you would want to know what love is but you can't handle the aftermath.
2) You're WAY too young to be showing your parts to guys. And its highly immoral to do so.
3) How old is the guy anyway? Cause if he's way older than you, even by 3 years, then he could just be taking advantage of you.

Aaron

Scott I disagree. At 13 I knew how to love (I am 33) I loved my parents and my family. I loved my boyfriend. I think it is hateful to say that a 13 year old doesn't know what love is. My early relationships prepared me for adult relationships. I agree with one part of thegreatergood's statement in that 13 is very young to handle the aftermath of adult choices in what should be a young teen relationship.
I want trying to emulate anyone when I developed feelings for my boyfriends in high school. I had real, true feelings. It is hateful to diminish the feelings of a young person.

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Scott I disagree. At 13 I knew how to love (I am 33) I loved my parents and my family. I loved my boyfriend. I think it is hateful to say that a 13 year old doesn't know what love is. My early relationships prepared me for adult relationships. I agree with one part of thegreatergood's statement in that 13 is very young to handle the aftermath of adult choices in what should be a young teen relationship.
I want trying to emulate anyone when I developed feelings for my boyfriends in high school. I had real, true feelings. It is hateful to diminish the feelings of a young person.

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I don't doubt that you had "real true feelings". But, from your own words, you confirm what I have said. "My early relationships prepared me for adult relationships." That tells me that your earlier relationships were not true love otherwise they wouldn't have ended. Yes the experience one gets from emotional attachments at earlier ages will help one recognize real love when they find it.

Please don't think that saying a 13 yr old doesn't have the experience to judge love as minimizing the emotions they do feel. It is not hateful, just factual.

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I don't doubt that you had "real true feelings". But, from your own words, you confirm what I have said. "My early relationships prepared me for adult relationships." That tells me that your earlier relationships were not true love otherwise they wouldn't have ended. Yes the experience one gets from emotional attachments at earlier ages will help one recognize real love when they find it.

Please don't think that saying a 13 yr old doesn't have the experience to judge love as minimizing the emotions they do feel. It is not hateful, just factual.

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I just patently disagree!Not all relationships last forever. And you can feel love at any time whether it lasts forever or not. I see your point, I just respectfully disagree.

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I just patently disagree!Not all relationships last forever. And you can feel love at any time whether it lasts forever or not. I see your point, I just respectfully disagree.

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The issue here is you and I seem to have a different definition of love. Its true that not all relationships last forever, but I maintain that if there is truly love in the relationship, it will. Maybe this is an rose-colored view of things but there it is.