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  • Dec 20, 2006, 02:01 AM
    APlusM
    Im In Love With my Best friend and Need Advice!
    Well lets start this off by saying Im a 15 Year old Guy Named "adrian" who is in love with his best friend "Michelle" and she is also 15 yeas old.We've known each other since May 06 and have been attracted to each other since.We started as bestfriends until the 2nd month of knowing each other, we admitted we have feelings for each other but did not end up getting together.She was with her boyfriend for(5months) when I met her and they had a few breaks up until now.A few days before their year together she decided to end it with her boyfriend because he wasn't respecting her.He kissed and told, and talked to other girls while he was with her. She tells me she loves me and I love her in return.However,she may love me but she is scared to be in a relationship with me.She's afraid that I might lose interest in her while we are together and I believe she is also a little worried I would cheat.I never used to take relationships seriously and I have cheated on my last few girlfriends, but it is because I didn't love them or didn't really have strong feelings for them.So now that I really met my match and I'm positive she is my first true love,I'm a bit concerned because she does love me BUT I am not her first love.She still loves her ExBoyfriend but is gradually getting over him and fully loving me in return.the thing is if she really did love me as much as I love her then I would expect we'd be together by now?
    How much time does she really need to get over her ex?It has been about 1 Month since she broke up with him, Considering the fact that she knows I'm really here for her and we have known each other long enough to trust and love one another, I get this feeling that she's afraid of getting hurt or perhaps afraid that our friendship is at risk.. Can anybody help me figure out whether My best friend and I should take a chance and be together as a couple? I'd Really Appreciate it :)
  • Dec 20, 2006, 02:14 AM
    JoeCanada76
    I personally would take the chanch. It is best to start as best friends and some people are afraid to move on to the next step because they do not want to lose that friendship if something goes wrong but at the same time. You could be missing out on great things if you do not take that chanch.

    It takes time and patience. Just show her that you care for her and love her. Go with the flow. Do not force it, which will just scare her away.

    Joe
  • Dec 20, 2006, 06:24 AM
    talaniman
    Of course she is afraid of being hurt, and losing a good friendship. Talking to her about it is the only thing you can do.

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