And uncomfortable.

She broke up with me 2 years ago, and a month ago she started contacting me again. Since I was single, I figured all right ill go with the flow. Now we're dating and back together, because those feelings returned that I had for her once upon a time. But now that we're all good, I can't stop thinking about how uncomfortable I am. 1) the fact that she broke up with me is sort of a grudge and just feels weird. 2) the fact that she went out with someone after me (it bothers me), but they broke up a year ago. Was quite serious on her part to the point of almost getting engaged as well. I don't know who broke up with who though, if it matters.

I might sound out of place or plain silly/dumb, but I can't help but feel this way. Am I exaggerating the situation? Should I be feeling uncomfortable? Maybe I should break up? Should I quit being sucha baby?

Discuss.

Getting back with this girl wont go anywhere unless you fix what went wrong to begin with both of you, and if youre going to do this do it ASAP, or youre merely headed for heartache and heart break. If you dont fix it then you may as well Throw it. you choose.

Did you two discuss and come to terms with the original problems, why did you break up in the first place?
If you are having doubts and concerns it's best to get them out in the open and talk about them. Ignoring them will not make them go away.

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If this is the same girl, don't be so thrilled that you got her back, because I think she is back because her other option failed, and she left you for him in the first place.

No wonder you have those reservations now. I suggest you pay attention to those feelings, and not just go with the flow. I don't see this being any better than before, and maybe a worse situation than it was.

If she is the same girl you posted about in Feb 2009 than I see why you have hesitations.

The two of you have been around this bend before haven't you? I think does feelings you have (the negative ones) are there for a reason. When you guys started going out in the first time she was 2 months out of a relationship where she got her heart broken which was the first bad... and then she broke up with you. I totally understand that you hold a grudge. Its also important forr you to listen to that because it's a sign that this is not a good thing for you at all! And it won't lead to anything good in the long run.

I don't know the two of you or where you both are on an emotional level, but you should get out of that mess and start a fresh with someone new.. someone unrelated to her...

My experience is that a relationship where the people in it break up and gets back together multiple times (or even once for that matter) is usually doomed to fail... people break up for a reason and no matter what that reason is it's best to just leave it behind you and cointinue to look a head and move on

It sounds like you are afraid to love her, because you know the potential consequences, and history is history- is it going to repeat itself again?

You are not wrong to love someone regardless of all that has gone wrong between you. But, what do you want out of the relationship. Life partner? Marriage down the road? Children? A future together with no negative baggage from the past?

If you were to look at this as a new relationship, as though you were getting to know her all over again (people change), what is different now, as opposed to what it was like with her in the past.

Or is everything clouded by history, which leaves you not quite comfortable enough to jump in with both feet.

IF there is hope, and enough substance there that it is worth it, to you, to invest more ofyourself and your life, and the two of you have common goals and dreams, then try to separate the hesitation you have to move forward with her, and deal with that.

Couples counselling is a great way to sift through the hangover that normally comes when couples reunite after a rocky past. Talk through your reservations, and let her as well, and see if when things are all out on the table, there can't be some forgiveness, and change.

Think of it as any investment you might make. You want the skinny on that new Ford, because you had a really bad experience with the Ford you had a few years ago.

I try not to judge anyone on their past, or their partners' past, because that is not who they are now. It also doesn't indicate that maturity and time haven't given them the tools to work hard on establishing a good, solid relationship- going into the future now.

A few good sessions with an impartial therapist who won't judge either party by their past mistakes, but help you work through what is putting up roadblocks to the future, is really, in my opinion, the only way to go.

OP, have you resolved whatever it was that caused you two to break up originally, like 2 years ago????

If you havent then youre flogging a dead horse because what went wrong 2 years ago will go wrong again, because your relationship is still broken, either fix it or eff it. because all youre doing is wasting time energy breath, life space and whatever youre going no where, its broken.

Can you see this yet????

Cooeee OP Im trying to get through to you, yep you.

Strooth they say love is blind, seems it might be deaf dumb and dense too. !!!