I'm a 17 year old girl, and my mum hates me. I try to hard but I've just given up in the past few years because I can't be bothered trying with her anymore. My brother is 20, she adores him. My whole family agree that she treats us completely differently. My dad agrees that she treats me bad, as she also treats him like crap. She has a lot of issues and ever since I was tiny I have had to deal with her mood swings are hurtful words. She used to hit me when I was young and terrify me, but if anyone brings it up now she just makes out as if it never happened. She says such horrible things to both me and my dad, I just wish he would leave her. He has talked about it from time to time when she has been really awful but never has. Just today she told me that I was a disgusting ***** and that no one likes me, or wants to be around me... even though I had only just arrived home from being out with friends. She has told everyone she resents me and I don't even know what I've done to deserve this. The way she treats me has left me wanting to kill myself on some occasions and I have turned to self harm instead. She is nice to me in front of outsiders but at home I can't bear it. I just don't know what to do. I always tried to get along with her but lately I just hate her after everything she has put me though. Please help me.

Coming from a girl that has been through a similar situation I will tell you self inflicted harm is not the way to go. She will turn that against you also. So please don't continue to harm yourself. Also you could speak to some other trusted adult and see if they would be able to help you.

Would your dad help get you into councilling?

I do think you have gotten to a stage wher you need a professional to help you wade through all the hurt your feeling and perhaps help you understand more of why your mother behaves this way towards you.

All is not lost, you still have your dad,your not on your own.

Talking to someone will help give you coping skills to deal with her when she gets upset or starts shouting.

If you can't get a councillor,what about a teacher,paster,aunt,grandparent?

Someone will hear you if you keep saying it.

It must be depressing to have your mom treat you like this. Things like this are so hard to understand.

Red has offered some excellent suggestions. Someone who can help you through and help you try to understand this can do a world of good.

Keep your dad close , he probably knows better than anybody what you are going through and will do what's necessary to get help for you.

Keep us up dated. I wish you well

Please know you have friends here.
You are worth something and you need to know that.

Redhead asked about your father, what does he do when she treats you this way?

Harming yourself is not solving anything. Stop it.

You can seek help. Talk to someone you trust. There are teachers and ministers and so many others who would be willing to listen.

You are worth something! You for a reason! Never let anyone take that from you.

Perhaps when you do find an answer and you have resolved this
Issue you will find there are others out there who are going through the same thing.

You could be the one who is their lifeline. Hang on and if you believe in God ask him to help you get through this. He will.

Same problem..

You know I have the same problem and am only 15. I tried to kill myself several times but it never worked but then I told myself I can just bear this until am old enough to be independent and have my own life and leave her out of mine as will and really we all got a short life, why spend it all over Mysore and sadness so am going to live my life just like I want it without my mom's interference and I have promised myself that when I grow up I won't be like her and you should do the same. PS today is my birthday and she haven't even bothered taking me to t he saloon to make my her and put some make up or anything. I hate her but it will all fade away when she is finally out of my life.

You know I have the same problem and am only 15. I tried to kill myself several times but it never worked but then i told myself i can just bear this until am old enough to be independent and have my own life and leave her out of mine as will and really we all got a short life, why spend it all over Mysore and sadness so am gonna live my life just like i want it without my mom's interference and i have promised my self that i grow up i wont be like her and you should do the same. PS today is my birthday and she haven't even bothered taking me to t he saloon to make my her and put some make up or anything. I hate her but it will all fade away when she is finally out of my life.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!

You know I have the same problem and am only 15. I tried to kill myself several times but it never worked but then i told myself i can just bear this until am old enough to be independent and have my own life and leave her out of mine as will and really we all got a short life, why spend it all over Mysore and sadness so am gonna live my life just like i want it without my mom's interference and i have promised my self that i grow up i wont be like her and you should do the same. PS today is my birthday and she haven't even bothered taking me to t he saloon to make my her and put some make up or anything. I hate her but it will all fade away when she is finally out of my life.



HAPPY

BIRTHDAY !

You said "when I grow up". You are more grown up than many people much older than you.
Your insight and attitude at your age gives me faith in the future.

I feel (for the most part) you have handled your situation extremely well , and with a level of thought and understanding well beyond your years.( I hear you refer to suicide again and I'll hunt you down and kick your butt.)

You can tell your mum that Martin says she should wake up and see what a great child she has been blessed with and should thank God every day that He favored her with you.

You are my hero of the day... maybe of the year, but it is only January.

It has been my pleasure to meet you and I honestly hope you stay around and offer your help to others your age. Any age for that matter!

I wish you well

Thanks a lot I really didn't know that what I wrote would influence people that much but thanks again and I will saty around and help other people. Plus you have given me hope too

Stay*