I'm starting to get worried.. I'm completely obsessed with my friend. I love him, but he keeps pushing away. The more he pushes, the more I want him. We use to be close where we would talk everyday and now he doesn't try keeping up a conversation after I talk to him, or even when he talks to me first. This doesn't seem normal to me. He's constantly on my mind and I can't get him out of my head. I NEVER see him and he never tries making plans with me. I don't know if it's indicating that he doesn't want to see me, because he said that he did a few weeks ago... But everything reminds me of him. I have TONS of othert guy friends and for some reason I'm falling for the guy who I only talk to over Facebook and texting. I know, I'm pathetic. I need help and I don't know how to get my mind off him. I'm just a confused teenager. Any help? Any suggestions?
Thanks!

Oh... and he's super shy. He told me multiple times that he very seldom has friends over or anything because they live to far away. When I see him in person he clams up and doesn't talk to me.

First, how old are you and this guy?

How long have you had this relationship?

KK22: I'm fifteen, he's 17... He just turned seventeen, and I'll be 16 in Oct.
M2: We met when we were little kids. But I started talking to him again a year ago.

Has he had girlfriends before. You said he was shy, maybe he is. Maybe you should just ask him how he feels because you don't know, because he is acting different. Then if he likes you maybe that will help him come out of his shell!

Since you have known this person since a child have you ever heard him express an interest in any girl? Even movie stars etc. Im asking because its may be possible that person is gay and doesn't want you or anyone else to know.

Unluckynut: He hasn't had a girlfriend before. And I try asking him how he feels, and he pushes away that question... So I stopped asking.
Califdadof3: When we were 5 we saw a movie with our parents and sat together and held hands. But that was years ago. Other than that he never talks about any girls... Even I do. I'm not gay but I'll make comments like "Man, Britinay Snow is hott. Don't ya think" and he'll brush it off. It's possible he's gay... But he is the average guy... He loves football, cars, video games, action films, etc etc...

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Unluckynut: He hasn't had a girlfriend before. And I try asking him how he feels, and he pushes away that question... So I stopped asking.
Califdadof3: When we were 5 we saw a movie with our parents and sat together and held hands. But that was years ago. Other than that he never talks about any girls... Even I do. I'm not gay but I'll make comments like "Man, Britinay Snow is hott. Don't ya think" and he'll brush it off. It's possible he's gay... But he is the average guy... He loves football, cars, video games, action films, etc etc...

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Then just observe and say nothing. Don't be obvious about it. No matter what you notice say nothing. But if a pretty girl passes by (not that your not pretty) and he doesn't glance at any time. There is a high likelihood he could be gay. DO NOT be offended by that nor question his decisions.

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Originally Posted by califdadof3

Then just observe and say nothing. Dont be obvious about it. No matter what you notice say nothing. But if a pretty girl passes by (not that your not pretty) and he doesnt glance at any time. There is a high likelyhood he could be gay. DO NOT be offended by that nor question his decisions.

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I agree. Observe. He may be interested in another girl.

It seems like you care about this guy, does it really matter if he is gay or not? I would think not, maybe if he is you can still have the best friend ever. If he's not only time will tell. Just be the you, that you have always been. When the time is good maybe you can tell him you feel like he's hiding something . But don't push. Let him know he can tell you anything, and it doesn't matter what it is, you'll still be there for him. You can never have too many friends!

Be his friend.