Ask Me Help Desk - The games he's playing

Dear experts,

Okay, here's the skeeze... this guy that I have been friends with for five or six years is everything I thought I needed in every other man I'd dated. He's smart, career driven, athletic, and above all, he's very nice, honest, and very sweet. And he's also got the face of an angel, and the body of a greek god! Anyway, from where I stand, and how he acts and treats me, he likes me, I like him... but what's the deal ? I told him that I liked him and he told me that he likes me too, but he was still having too much fun playing around with dumb girls. So I asked him if I was worth him leaving those chcken heads alone, and he said yes, but right now he was still playing and he cared far too much about me and didn't want to hurt my feelings because he was playing around. Well, I took it in stride, and yes, I felt dumb, but oh well. He's the though. I decided that he's playing because whenever he'd see me with another guy, he starts hating, or saying you don't need that cat! But he's always with another girl. Or he'll do stuff like hug me, blow kissed at me, and send me flowers. ( I just got a bouqet of roses, a valentine's card, and two of those kissing bears delivered from him ) but when I ask him what's the deal, he's evasive; I do really want to be with him, but I don't know his angle. What to do? For some odd reason, I feel like he's the one that I'm supposed to be with, and I don't want to miss my future husband by messing around with guys I REALLY DON'T care two drops of bird doo-doo about... should I wait for him ?

The answer is yes and no! How's that for evading the issue. Seriously now; you should tell him something like, "You know I'm crazy about you and that I think you are great and I think you feel something for me but you've got to choose, do you want something serious and meaningful with me or not? If yes then I'm not going to play games, you need to leave the airheads alone and be my man, otherwise, I'll wish you the best but I'm not waiting in the wings for you to get tired of being a playboy"

If he cares about you, he'll do the right thing. If he does not, you will know its time to move on. You have to take control of your life and that includes how you allow men to treat you, otherwise you risk losing yourself respect.

Best wishes,
Dwalex

I feel that you need to sit down and communicate with your man what it is your feeling and if he shows no respect for your feels then you don't need him, you need to keep yourself respect and try to analize what your step is going to be, a man has to respect you and if there is no respect there is no relationship... Best of luck and God bless

Chaz :)

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Originally Posted by ladylion

dear experts,

okay, here's the skeeze....this guy that i have been friends with for five or six years is everything i thought i needed in every other man i'd dated. he's smart, career driven, athletic, and above all, he's very nice, honest, and very sweet. and he's also got the face of an angel, and the body of a greek god!!! anyway, from where i stand, and how he acts and treats me, he likes me, i like him.....but whats the deal ? i told him that i liked him and he told me that he likes me too, but he was still having too much fun playing around with dumb girls. so i asked him if i was worth him leaving those chcken heads alone, and he said yes, but right now he was still playing and he cared far too much about me and didn't want to hurt my feelings b/c he was playing around. well, i took it in stride, and yes, i felt dumb, but oh well. he's the though. i decided that he's playing b/c whenever he'd see me with another guy, he starts hating, or saying you don't need that cat! but he's always with another girl. or he'll do stuff like hug me, blow kissed at me, and send me flowers. ( i just got a bouqet of roses, a valentine's card, and two of those kissing bears delivered from him ) but when i ask him whats the deal, he's evasive; i do really want to be with him, but i dont know his angle. what to do? for some odd reason, i feel like he's the one that i'm supposed to be with, and i dont want to miss my future husband by messing around with guys i REALLY DON'T care two drops of bird doo-doo about.......should i wait for him ?

No don't wait he just playing u 2 if he really wanted to be with you he would leave the dum ones its like that old saying ( he don't want you and he don't want you to be with anyone either) he wants you to wait while he plays the field so you don't fall for someone else so what happens to you if one of therse dumb girls ends up being his soulmate? Think about it so while your waiting what happens if your soulmate passes you by and you didn't even know it because your waiting for him