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Relationship Fallout

Hi All. Has anyone engaged in MMF or FFM group, three some sex activity. And was there any relationship fall out from this.

My Girlfriend is wanting to try MMF but I am a little unsure as this is new to me. I like the idea of FFM but I am worried that this will end the relationship ?

If its not for you don't do it. If you can't handle another guy helping you do your g/f then don't expect her having a female help her do you. Pretty simple huh! I suspect she can find two guys anyway whether you particapate or not.

Does this not make the girl a slut ?

I am against this kind of thing full stop while you are in a relationship. Sexual intamacy between two people on this level is about only the two of you exploring each other physically ALONE..

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Originally Posted by falloutguy

I like the idea of FFM but I am worried that this will end the relationship ?

Firstly, the reason you like the idea of FFM and are unsure about MMF is that you don't want any other man having sex with your woman, yet you are quite comfortable to expect her to accept another woman having sex with you.

Kind of like, DOUBLE STANDARDS!

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Originally Posted by falloutguy

I like the idea of FFM but I am worried that this will end the relationship ?

You are right to feel anxious about this ending in disaster and a break-up and there is a high chance of this.

These kind of sexual acts in relationships usually end up in regrets. I have never done this sort of thing, neither would I contemplate it. There are plenty of other ways you can live a healthy and exciting sex life just when there are the two of you ALONE..

You just have to be adventurous and spice it all up a little.

Forget this kind of thing... If you really want to engage in this, then you should both be single. I would then be open minded and would not judge you for doing it since you are not in a committed relationship.

Just my opinion though..

If you aren't completely comfortable with it, there will certainly be negative fallout in the relationship. My experience is that if you can't be wholeheartedly engaged, it's better not to participate at all.

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Originally Posted by onlineguy

Does this not make the girl a slut ?

I think promiscuous would have been the better word to use.

What about the guy though??

What does this make him??

I have had a situation regarding something similar, my ex girlfriend had participated in this and I am unable to handle the fact that she is into this sort of relationship. This caused the relationship to breakdown, but she does not seem to think that her behaviour is bad.

Guess it's a perspective thing?

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Originally Posted by 4answers

I have had a situation regarding something similar, my ex girlfriend had participated in this and I am unable to handle the fact that she is into this sort of relationship. This caused the relationship to breakdown, but she does not seem to think that her behaviour is bad.

Guess its a perspective thing?

Remember too that young people are often promiscuous and I am not speaking for everyone here but younger people do tend to want to explore and experiment sexually so this sort of thing is more likely to happen at a younger age.

As 4answers has pointed out, it can end in a relationship break-up. I do think though that if it is in someone's past then you should let it go as the future and present has nothing to do with what happened in the past (most of the time).

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As 4answers has pointed out, it can end in a relationship break-up. I do think though that if it is in someones past then you should let it go as the future and present has nothing to do with what happened in the past (most of the time).[/QUOTE]

I have tried to talk to the girl about this to try to understand her but she will not discuss this. She is saying that I am viewing her past as something shamfull and disgusting, which is true, I view it that she allowed a stranger (in this case) to use her for his own sexual pleasure, and that disgusts me, when I cared about her.

My point is, is that this girl happilly undertakes in this behavior but then is not honest about it. i.e. if you sleep around and have one night stands, then as long as your open about it to your partner, not a problem. But to pretend your something your not is not good.

So you also need to consider the after affects of this type of behaviour !

Sorry if I sound a little bitter, but I am having diffuculty coming to terms with this and I was her new boyfriend! How will your new girlfriend view this ?

My feeling is this, if you love your girlfriend than picturing her with someone else will probably torture you and vice versa. Acting on a sexual impulse is one thing. Fantasizing about it another.