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  • Jul 30, 2010, 10:54 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Do bridesmaids typically pay for their dress?
    A few friends of mine say that bridesmaids pay for their own dresses, the others say that the bride typically pays for them. Which is correct?
  • Jul 30, 2010, 11:21 PM
    Hexxie

    Dear EMOP,

    I think this article will help:

    Paying for bridesmaids dresses : Wedding article

    Good luck to you.
  • Jul 30, 2010, 11:22 PM
    J_9

    Typically yes, the bridesmaid pays for her own dress.
  • Jul 30, 2010, 11:23 PM
    EmoPrincess

    Thank you both
  • Jul 30, 2010, 11:30 PM
    Hexxie

    You're welcome.:)
  • Jul 31, 2010, 01:11 AM
    positiveparent

    In the UK I think the Bride pays for the bridesmaid dresses, plus she gives the bridesmaids a present, and the groom pays for the hire of the best Mans top hat and tails or morning suit, plus he gives the chief bridesmaid and best man a present, and gives
    The Mother of the Bride and his own Mum a bouquet.

    However this is all of course open to debate between bride and groom, And also different in different parts of the world.
  • Jul 31, 2010, 05:02 AM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by positiveparent View Post
    In the UK I think the Bride pays for the bridesmaid dresses, plus she gives the bridesmaids a present, and the groom pays for the hire of the best Mans top hat and tails or morning suit, plus he gives the chief bridesmaid and best man a present, and gives
    the Mother of the Bride and his own Mum a bouquet of flowers.

    However this is all of course open to debate between bride and groom,. and also different in different parts of the world.

    That's all for UK right? I've heard of any of that where I live.
    Thank you though
  • Jul 31, 2010, 02:04 PM
    Jake2008

    I have attended dozens of weddings, and here in Canada, I can't say that the 'rule' is for a bride to pay for the bridesmaids dresses.

    I've only been married once myself, and all the dresses were made at one dress shop, and each paid their own.

    I think that if one had been unable to pay for her dress, I'd help out rather than not see her in the wedding party.
  • Jul 31, 2010, 08:06 PM
    unluckynut

    I think so, they pay for their own dress. I know it can get expense, and then altering the dress. For that reason maybe they should have some say in what dresses are picked. It can get very expensive.
  • Aug 2, 2010, 11:49 AM
    EmoPrincess

    The dresses I've chosen are cheap, and simple and can be worn as a normal formal dress to any occasion after the wedding.

    The bridesmaids have all agreed to pay for their own dresses and to have them altered.

    Thank you everyone for your help, I needed to know the normal trend before I asked them to pay for their dresses, I didn't want to offend anyone
  • Aug 2, 2010, 11:57 AM
    positiveparent

    Not wishing to dispute anyone's replies, however I have been
    Led to believe that part of the thanks for a person being a bridesmaid was that they also had the dress they wear given to them too.

    Maybe that's just how it is in England, or in my own circle of friends.
  • Aug 2, 2010, 12:02 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by positiveparent View Post
    Not wishing to dispute anyones replies, however I have been
    led to believe that part of the thanks for a person being a bridesmaid was that they also had the dress they wear given to them too.

    Maybe thats just how it is in England, or in my own circle of friends.

    Everyone around here I know who has been a bridesmaid has gotten to keep their dress
  • Aug 2, 2010, 12:11 PM
    positiveparent
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by EmoPrincess View Post
    everyone around here I know who has been a bridesmaid has gotten to keep their dress

    Its same here only difference being that the bride usually pays for all the bridesmaids dresses. Different traditions for different Countries or people. Plus maybe the finances I can't say I have actually ever asked a bridesmaid if she paid for her dress LOL, Ive been a bridesmaid twice and each time the bride or her family paid for the dress I wore.
  • Aug 2, 2010, 12:13 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by positiveparent View Post
    Its same here only difference being that the bride usually pays for all the bridesmaids dresses. Different traditions for different Countries or people. Plus maybe the finances I can't say I have actually ever asked a bridesmaid if she paid for her dress LOL, Ive been a bridesmaid twice and each time the bride or her family paid for the dress I wore.

    Wow! I know I wouldn't be able to have a wedding if we couldn't get help paying for things like the bridesmaid dresses
  • Jan 3, 2011, 11:11 AM
    shampoobabe
    I am getting married in the uk and have today bought the material for my 3 bridesmaids dresses, I am happy to pay for this for my bridesmaids however the daughter of one of my bridesmaids is my flowergirl and my friend is buying that outfit and shoes, I suppose its at brides discretion really. Good luck with your wedding anyway xxx

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