Ended things with my boyfriend CUZ OF A STRIP CLUB!!
Yesterday my boyfriend told me he was going out with his friend for coffee and I was totally OK with that, but than after a couple of hours later I called him and he didn't answer the phone the first time so I called him again in a couple of seconds and he sounded it out of breath which made me wounder what he was doing. So I asked him where he was and he ended up saying the reason he didn't answer the phone the first time was because he couldn't find it, and he had to run outside that made no sense to me so I asked him where he was and he ended up telling me that he was at a strip club and he knows I hate those places and when he told me he felt bad I could tell in his voice. When he told me that I got sooooooooo mad that I told him to of and I turned my phone off. He msged me on msn but I told him he ed up and to leave me alone. He called to day telling me he loves me and that these strip clubs mean nothing but I feel horrible when he goes and he knows I hate it do you think I'm over reacting? I love him soooooo much but I hate it when he even watches porn but that I don't mind that much. These strip clubs I really don't want him going to! His friend is single ofcouse he can go why not but my boyfriend well ex now he had a girlfriend and he just didn't care or even respect my feelings by going. Help did I do the right thing or am I taking this over board??
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ended things with my boyfriend CUZ OF A STRIP CLUB!!
I have found women to have a double standard on this. They say that only perverts go to clubs featuring female strippers but if the Chippendales come to town... get out of there way they are there dollar bills in hand.
Your boyfriend was wrong to have lied to him but you gave him no choice. He could look like a pu*%$ to his buddy or lie to you. You've got to understand that men are visual beings, they get aroused by pretty girls wearing skimpy outfits, but they do not fall in love with them because those girls want one thing... their money.
If you really love this guy then yes, I think you overreacted and if you did get him back I think you two can come to an agreement where he is allowed an occasional visual pleasure... as long as he comes home to you.
Best wishes,
dwalex
ended things with my boyfriend CUZ OF A STRIP CLUB!!
I've never met ANY man that has given up looking at porn, simply to 'impress' (or in this case, 'bow down') to a woman, and the only reason he lied was so as not to hurt you... but you got hurt in the end which is why you are so angry right now.
Dwalex is right that no man likes to look like a pu**y in front of his homeys, as well it will do few things:
1) make his friends question what type of relationship he is in (hopeful or doomed)
2) create resentment towards you (because, simply put, you aren't letting him do things that he would do regularly)
3) create unnecessary tension in the relationship.
There are something's you shouldn't stand for, but looking at boobs and such doesn't warrant him cheating on you.