My stupid aunt tells me she hates it when I have a straw in my mouth, I can't help it it's a habbit but she get's mad at me telling me to give it to her I said no then we started arguing, it's my straw, I want it even though I know it's a stupid arguments but we fight a lot then I finally give it too her after this and that happened, she said it's rude I was like " how the heck is it rude!?" she ain't answer me but I bet she didn't have a goo d reason so somebpdy please tell me is having a straw in your mouth really rude? So we can stop fighting for now I'm tired of her since we live together.

Why do you have a straw in your mouth? What are you doing with it?

Yes, it's rude, especially if you are talking while it's in your mouth.

It's rude, and it's gross. A straw has one purpose, that's to drink out of, not to chew on, or walk around with.

Who wants to look at someone while they're gnawing and drooling on a straw? It's like picking your nose, bad habit, if you can't help it, do it in private.

Maybe chewing gum will help.

I guess it depends. Are you out in public with it in your mouth? Is it hanging out of your mouth while you are talking to her or to others?

Might be rude to some... may be odd or annoying to others if you have it there most of the time. I suppose it can be similar to someone who chews gum much of the time. That too can be rude if smacking on it or chewing it while talking.

Why not just take it out when you are around her? It won't hurt you, and then you won't have the hassle. It may even help you to start to use it less and be able to break the habit.

You didn't mention your age, but you'll have to stop at some point since you won't be able to have it school or work. Might as well make your life easier and work at it now. Try candy or something like that instead if you need to to help break the habit.

First of all, you call her your "stupid aunt." Guess where my mind went as soon as I read that.

You know it makes her mad, but you continue to bite on it and play around with it and chew on it. Guess what conclusion I came to as soon as that thought crossed my mind.

Just for grins, please tell me how old you are, and I will tell you how old I think you are.

I'm 15 I don't call her stupid that was actually the first time but she also hits me which also gives me the right to hate her (my mom and her starts arguing) but I know I'm acting out of place for getting mad over a traw same goes for her for arguing with me but I get over things quickly not caring anymore.:D

Why does she hit you? Is there some way you can improve your relationship with her? You seem like a smart enough guy who might have some good ideas.

(I had guessed 12 -- judging from the writing and attitude. Can you pick up the writing just a teensy bit and add some commas and periods? I can live without the "I"s being capitalized.)

Hitting is wrong. But it gives you no "right" to hate. It can cause emotions , but does not grant right to anything.

A lot of people hit when they feel frustration and/or anger.

Again hitting is wrong. But do you do things purposely that you know will make her angry? This is not helping.

But if there is hitting going on you need to tell mom if you haven't already.

You have other posts that have, along with this one, indicated your lack of maturity.

Why you need to be told that it is rude to chomp on a straw, more than once, says that you are doing it on purpose. Why do you need to get a rise out of your aunt in the first place. Quite childish behaviour in my opinion.

Would you chew on a straw while on a date? In class? Having a job interview? Getting your picture taken for the yearbook?

Or is this more a 'habit' of convenience, in that it is a habit only when it is convenient for you to get on somebody's nerves.

Maybe try to limit your chewing while you are in bed at night, while studying for your history exam. Or while sitting out in the backyard- alone, or anywhere, in other words, where nobody will be bothered by you.

Hello Iwant2knowmore,

Yes, I think that it's rude.

You are a young lady as you should behave like one.

Perhaps you may want to be more helpful around the house with the cooking and the cleaning, instead of undermining your Aunt. That may alleviate some of the stress between the two of you.

Good luck.

Hi, iwant2knowmore!

If you think that it's a habit, then it's a habit that you can control. Some people have physical habits over which they have no control. You do over that one.

When we are in public, we try to present a "picture" of ourselves to others. Some people care about the "picture" of themselves that they present to others. Some don't care.

The "picture" might involve any number of things: Looks, attitude, demeanor, intelligence, beliefs, potential in many ways (or, lack of potential), etc. Many people consider those who constantly need to have something in their mouths to be insecure and doing something that's a leftover behavioral attribute from when infants would suck their thumbs.

The type of "picture" that a person presents about themselves can oftentimes make a big difference in the kind of job they are able to get and hold as well as the types of friends they might have.

Also, if I'm listening to someone who is communicating in some way by using their mouth, I want to be able to understand everything that they're trying to communicate without anything getting in the way of that. I think that it's pretty easy to realize that objects placed in the mouth of a person aren't conducive for the optimal communication that could happen if there wasn't anything in a person's mouth. Objects in the mouth then are an unnecessary distraction from what really needs to happen.

Even by writing things on this site, you're presenting a "picture" of who and what you are.

What kind of "picture" do you want to present to others, please?

Thanks!

So... you are willing to justify this as a habit... but are not willing to give her the same consideration? Meaning... her habit to not have a piece of plastic protrude from her face?

Look... this is a mixed bag. You do not need to please her. Stick all the plastic tubes in all the orifices you wish. Your body.

She has the right to b@tch. You have the right to ignore.

Long term... if this is the biggest problem you have between you, its pretty damn good.

Not diminishing how ticked you are. But really... let her be ticked. It isn't your job to pleae her.

I once worked with a guy who chewed on straws all the time. The one thing that you could be sure of was the slight trickle of spittle, slowly dripping out of the open end. Pretty nasty, HUH? He said that it was a "habit" too. I say chew gum if you need an oral fix.

Try to be more respectful of others, especially in their house.

You can chew whatever you want on your time but show some respect and take it out when in someone else's house, especially an elder family member. Why have a useless argument over a straw?