My boyfriend lies to me and goes to strip clubs behind my back and wants to find girls to either talk to or have sex with. We don't have sex because I'm heart broken. And he always yells at me. When I try to bring something up and exspress my feelings about what he does to me and how he hurts me he yells at me and gets really angry. I love him and I have a baby with him but I don't know what to do cause I don't want to leave him but I do.. and I don't want him not to be in my daughters life. But I will not leave my baby alone with I'm cause I don't trust him and who he has around. What should I do?


And I asked him why did you go to a strip club and he says back "i can't answer that" he makes me feel so worthless

Leave this guy and have no contact with him. He won't change.

Leave this guy, he doesn't love you. Keeping contact with him will only make you miserable. You said you have a baby with him, think about your baby's future. Are you employed or not? Divert all your attention to your baby and her upbringing.

His yelling and getting angry when you ask him about his cheating is unacceptable.

Go home to your parents and get on you your feet. He is emotionally abusing you.

That little one doesn't need to be
Raised in an abusive environment.

I think that it is the need of security and the fear of being alone that is making you stay with him. What will I do without him? I can't leave him because I love him. He can still have contact with his daughter even if you do leave. I seriously think that it is not healthy for you or you daughter to be around this. Leave for a bit and try to live your life without him, if it is possible go back to your parents or turn to your friends for support. He is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated - with respect!! Don't settle for the breadcrumbs you are worth more than that.

I agree with other here OP you really need to leave this b/f he's abusive and that abuse could so easily turn to physical abuse, he's also being inconsiderate to your child whenever he yells at you she also gets scared.

So if not for you then think of how this is effecting your baby, and leave him.

You don't need this kind of abusive person in your life neither does your baby.

Thanks Fr_Chuck, I believe they just forgot to give me the original tag unfortunately.

You don't have to see him in order for him to see his daughter. Leave him and go to the courts. Put him on child support and move on.

Yea but I'm not leaving her alone with him because I don't trust him.. so in order for him to see her I have to be there.it just sucks.. cause I klove him so much and I'm so faithful to him but he does me dirty every day.

Thank you. Your advice is helpful.. its just hard cause I think omg who is he with what is he doing what if he's having sex with another girl.. while I'm sitting at home with our daughter, and by the way I live with my grents already so thts good I guess.

I'm not employed cause I'm breast feeding my bby and I can't leave her yet.. and all I do is spend time with my baby I'm with her 24-7 I think thts why I'm so attached to him because I don't go anywhere or get out at all and he's all I have to talk to :(

The sooner you leave him the better you will feel, trust me.

The best thing about bad relationships is all lessons you learn about yourself. I have heard this story a million times before. Leave Him! I know it's hard because I have been there just like a million other women. It's so easy to give advice but sometimes it's so hard to follow it, but you can do it. Look at yourself. What can you do to make your situation better? You can't change him so put the focus on you and your baby. You need to talk to someone who has been where you been and come out of it a better place. People who can't relate to your situation can give cookie cutter "good" advice, so be careful what "girlfriends" you get advice from.
Try these sites
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ (this is site where women will offer support because they have been where you are now).
http://www.2knowmyself.com/

Please, use this time to become a better person because you will be so happy that you did

I think you are already making up your mind. A little baby sure changes things. You love that child more than you love yourself.
More than you love him and that's how it supposed to be.

You will protect that child like a lioness protects her cub and it doesn't matter what you have to do you'll do it.

You never knew how strong love can be until you held that baby in
Your arms the first time. Be strong and know you have the strength to get that child away from any sort of danger.

You will be able to do it and I can almost bet there will be no battle from him to see your baby. He might threaten and cry and say he's going to do this or that but I've seen it too many times.

Check the laws in your state and talk with a lawyer. They will tell you yes he has the right to see the child. But will he want too?

I think you need to leave first and then think of going to court.

Find your strength and use it to make life better for you and your baby... God Bless You

Do you get along with HIS mother? Is she supportive of you? Do you have family, and friends to support your leaving him?

I think maybe you get away from this situation if you can, and give thought to what's best for you and your child, no matter what he does, or thinks.