My husband and I are married and have four children. We both parents working but always manage for one of us to be home when the children get home from school or the grandparents. My children age are 14, 12, 10 and 6. Last night, I found my oldest daughter locked herself in the bathroom and was crying. Both my husband and I went to talk to her but she did not tell us why. Why did to ask if something happen to her or to her friends? But did not get any information that I want.

Finally, I was going to take her to the emergency room and she said " she tries herself crazy and would not elaborate further". I tried to encourage her to open up to me but she asks me to give her some space. Her father is very upset and does not know what to. I called the pediatrician last night and made an appointment for her to be seen today.

Have there any parents out there experienced this situation before? Can you give me some insight information.

Welcome to teenage parenthood 101 LOL!!

I am curious as to why you were going to take her to the emergency room and then the doctor? Does this seem a little dramatic and over-the-top for a teenage girl who was crying? Could she just have had a fight with a friend? Is there more to this story that you did not put in here?

Teenage girls cry, it is a fact You did not get all the information you want, possibly because she wants her privacy. What information did you get?

I have had 2 teenage boys, I now have a teenage daughter, and I was a teenage girl myself way back in the day of the dinasours. I remember crying for no reason other than "I had a bad day" and that sometimes a good cry would make me feel better.

Is there some info you left out here? Only from what I have read here, this is typical of her age. She wants her space, let her have it. I still think though that taking her to the ER or the doctor was too dramatic, unless you are leaving out some info.

Good luck to you, parenting a teenager is not easy.

I have 5 BOYS, So I don't know anything about them, excpet my boys were on the list of banned boys from most of their homes.

But I did not know, and still don't know many things,
1. how their car got into the middle of that corn field buried up to the axle in mud.

2. who that naked girl in my basement was suppose to be seeing

3. how my jeep ended up in the front room of someone's house.

And a 100's others things from fights, to phone calls and the such.

Short of putting bugs on all the phones, and trasers inplanted in all the kids, welcome to teenagers and not having a clue.

You do the best you can and hope you raised them right, and be there for them if and when they need you

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Originally Posted by Confuse1234

My husband and I are married and have four children. We both parents working but always manage for one of us to be home when the children get home from school or the grandparents. My children age are 14, 12, 10 and 6. Last night, I found my oldest daughter locked herself in the bathroom and was crying. Both my husband and I went to talk to her but she did not tell us why. Why did to ask if something happen to her or to her friends? But did not get any information that I want.

Finally, I was going to take her to the emergency room and she said " she tries herself crazy and would not elaborate further". I tried to encourage her to open up to me but she asks me to give her some space. Her father is very upset and does not know what to. I called the pediatrician last night and made an appointment for her to be seen today.

Have there any parents out there experienced this situation before? Can you give me some insight information.

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Watch to see if she is "cutting"herself. It's a thing they do her age. If so, she is having some psychological problems that can definitely be fixed. Don't put her on any anti-depressant, the residuals are horrific.
Get her a therapist. Someone she can talk to once a week. Someone she can trust. Let her go alone for a couple months and than gradually get group sessions with you, your husband and daughter.

Cutting can be in different areas of the body. On the wrists (is she wearing long sleeved clothes) or on the inside of the thighs. Places on her body that you don't normally see every day.

I have a teenage daughter and hope I don't have to deal with this type of issues, but I guess the crying teenage girl thing will be here before I know it after reading this info.

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Originally Posted by Confuse1234

My husband and I are married and have four children. We both parents working but always manage for one of us to be home when the children get home from school or the grandparents. My children age are 14, 12, 10 and 6. Last night, I found my oldest daughter locked herself in the bathroom and was crying. Both my husband and I went to talk to her but she did not tell us why. Why did to ask if something happen to her or to her friends? But did not get any information that I want.

Finally, I was going to take her to the emergency room and she said " she tries herself crazy and would not elaborate further". I tried to encourage her to open up to me but she asks me to give her some space. Her father is very upset and does not know what to. I called the pediatrician last night and made an appointment for her to be seen today.

Have there any parents out there experienced this situation before? Can you give me some insight information.

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If she's a teenage girl I remember those days I
Thought I was crazy a few times there's
So much girls go through in there teenage years
Maybe find a big sister for her someone other then her
Parents that can be there for her and someone she can
Talk to as a peer and not a parental figure

I think you did the right thing by making an appointment to see the doctor. The doctor would know what kind of things to ask her, know what kind of signs to look for.
I raised a daughter and she never did anything like that, but if she had I think I would have done the same thing.