My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years. Things have been rocky for awhile now and we don't have sex anymore. He always says he is too tired and that he probably has "low testosterone" as he calls it. I just think they are all lame excuses. I just feel so lonely and rejected and out of ideas on what to do. I have tried everything and nothing works. The worst part is that he always wants a blowjob but never sex with me! What does that mean. I know most of you are going to say move on but for one, I love him and we have been together so long. And two, I actually moved to a different state for him. All of my family live across the country and I'm stuck in a lease with him! Please help!

Hello Lola,

Do you think that maybe he is stressed out about work, bills, getting married, life..

Have you guys sat down and really had a heart to heart about this?

Also, you mention that he asks you for oral, does he give you oral? Or is this all one sided?

In my opinion I think the two of ye need to go see someone and quickly if you want to have any chance in salvaging your relationship!

If you don't like this idea then you need to seriously have it out with him and if he gives you another "lame excuse" don't accept it! Tell him you can see that there's a bigger picture and if there is something wrong he needs to discuss it with you otherwise your not giving him anymore blowjobs, the pleasure has to go both ways!

At the end of the day it doesn't really matter if it's a lame excuse or if he really does have a low sex drive.

That you two are committed to each other and until you, he or you both decide to call it a day you need to try to communicate with each other.

Communication, acceptance and understanding

What else is going on in other areas of the relationship? Any big changes, or circumstances? Lack of sex is but a symptom of a greater problem in another area of the relationship, that needs to be addressed.

Just a guess, lack of proper communications by someone but you are the only one that can answer that.