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  • Jul 26, 2010, 03:18 AM
    centrefresh
    I want to save my relationship ,my boyfriend need a space I don't know what to do
    Hi,
    I am in a relationship from last 8 months it's a long distance relationship. But from June onwards we both are facing some problem . I was depressed due to his nature and his behaviour I have done something with me and after this my friend called him up . Due to this he was so much pissed off .and now he is saying that he need a space he don't want to leave me, he just need a space to deal with this situation.he is also busy in his business he wants to set up his business also. I don't know what to do how to deal with this. How to give him space. I don't want to loose him . I really want this relationship works.
  • Jul 26, 2010, 08:20 AM
    MissKnowitall

    In a long distance relationship, you have to downplay problems because they are made larger by the distance factor. Meaning, if you are down or sad, telling him won't help. It makes them anxious. I learned this the hard way. Doesn't mean it is fair but that is what distance does to people. All you can do is give him LOTS of space. He may contact you in a while or not.. if not you can reach out to him but not for a long while of no contact. That is the ONLY way.

    In long distance sitatuations, you just don't know what is going on regarding their behavior so making an issue of anything they do is a waste of energy.

    Food for thought :)
  • Jul 26, 2010, 08:22 AM
    centrefresh
    Thanks a lot buddy
  • Jul 26, 2010, 08:48 AM
    redrumx3

    All you can do is give him space, when someone tells you what they need it is usually a good idea to listen to it ;-)
  • Jul 26, 2010, 08:50 AM
    centrefresh

    Thank u so much for helping me
  • Jun 5, 2011, 11:20 AM
    cutebutton
    Discuss more with him what is the 'space' about! Sweetheart if he really love you any at all he will take the time to deal with his situation and you will still be around. Give him the space! All the best with ypur relationship!

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