I met my partners Dad about 5 yrs ago and he was the most jovial, welcoming,take-in-anyone person you could ever meet. He has been in hospital, now a home for terminally ill people (7 months now). He has been given only a few weeks to live. He used to be such a big cuddly bear of a man. I see him now and I hurt so much because I know the end is near. He has wasted away. He refuses food. I think he WANTS to give up and ITS HAPPENING. My partner is his son and our relationship has been deteriorating since. We are not intimate anymore, we don't talk, we don't even cuddle. My partner (like his father and self admitted) does not allow me to have friends. Or talk to anyone at all. (LOL) If he sees this, Im ed!) All I want to do is know HOW to support him. All I want to do is leave the abuse, but how can I " things up, by leaving?" I guess Im really screwed. can't leave him now, iPlease Help

Hi, ellykat!

How was your relationship with the son before his dad started dying, please?

Thanks!

Close. We had the most passionate relationship. We have seen each other through some extraordinary things.

Now its dead dead dead

So, is whatever "abuse" is going on, only because of how he has changed since his father is dying?

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now its dead dead dead

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Okay. But, I'm assuming that you would like to keep it alive. Would that be correct?

If you allow me to quote the inevitable? Life goes on, (small cry) I can accept the beauty and passion of life. That's me. I used to say "if you want to know me, I am love."
I don't say that anymore.

Sorry, I didn't get the last question. Um. Very much emotional not physical now the police have been involved again and again and again. I am only permitted to live in certain smaller and smaller circles. My best friend is his mother and that's it.

No. I told him and his Mum that I would like to get my own flat. Holy . Im too old for this , yet Im still here. I want o go.

How long have you known him and his family, please?

I apologize for all the questions. But, it helps to get sufficient enough information in order for people to advise the best here.

Thanks!

Guess you gone too

I'm not gone. I was changing my options so that people can see that I'm online here. It's really late for me right now. And, sometimes it's best to move around the site being "cloaked" as it were...

Did you see my post #10?

Eine kleine

No, I don't know how to look

LOL U sound like undercover something. Why do you have do do what u said? I look where you ask me to

I don't know what "skin" for the site you're using. But for me, we're on page 2. So, you might need to go to the first page of the thread to read post #10.

Rock Island. Is that USA?

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LOL U sound like undercover something. Why do you have do do what u said? I look where you ask me to

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Sometimes people who are regulars on the site can get involved "live" in more than one thread at a time. It can help to slow things down a bit by being "cloaked". At least that's one of the reasons for doing it.

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Rock Island. Is that USA?

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Yes. IL for Illinois is written next to Rock Island.