Ask Me Help Desk - I feel sad and lonely

Hi there . I am new on this but not in the age , I came to this country in 1999 for a better life , I been marrid for 23 years my married never worked I just keepet it going 4 my children.. I love my children very much , I never did or think 4 myself just for them and I been keeping and dong everything what a good wife can do but neer been respectet from my husband and his family , I always missed that very much , he thought I am only for work and never to enjoy th elife so I desided to get rid off my marrieg ,to end it, which everybody of my family , his family and oll the people we know (my country from ) they just hate me for it and I fell I haven't got enyone in this world (a part of my children ) I am very sad in did , I am in tears by writing this , if u undestand my writing (I no I got writing and grama mistakes cose the english is my second languich but forgive me 4 it ) To be honest I am a very good person , I am e very good bittish citizen but I am not happy at all formy life .So much to ask is in my head?? Thank you

Hi Just the life...

Sounds like you did some good things if you ask me... ;) Now, if only you could feel better about yourself! I say you concentrate on your children and ignore everyone else at this time in your life. Your children are, after all, the most special gifts you can have in this world!

With that in mind I would also suggest that you go and join a dating service... that's right I said a dating service. I don't necessarily mean for dating/long-term relationship but more so for friendship/companionship!

In my opinion, the nicest thing about a dating service is that you can date as often as you like... the guy usually pays (but not always) and worst case, the date is a dud... best case you make a friend or maybe more. Never know... could find the guy that sets your world back to a balanced place where you feel good about yourself.

I am sure you have local dating services, but they also have online services like the eharmony. Check them out by clicking on the link below:

eHarmony #1 Trusted Singles Online Dating Site ? More than Personals

If that seems to be too much at this time then you may also want to consider joining a local/community cooking class or any other type of community class that gets you out and being with real people! I've always found that surrounding myself with positive people makes things better in the long run!

Like to run? Join a running club. Like books... a book club is great! I can think of tons more stuff! The point is to get out and find people that make you smile!

I am glad to chat if/when you want. I'm in and out all day!

Wishing you the best...

Mark

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Originally Posted by massplumber2008

Hi Just the life...

Sounds like you did some good things if you ask me...;) Now, if only you could feel better about yourself! I say you concentrate on your children and ignore everyone else at this time in your life. Your children are, after all, the most special gifts you can have in this world!

With that in mind I would also suggest that you go and join a dating service...that's right I said a dating service. I don't necessarily mean for dating/long-term relationship but moreso for friendship/companionship!

In my opinion, the nicest thing about a dating service is that you can date as often as you like...the guy usually pays (but not always) and worst case, the date is a dud...best case you make a friend or maybe more. Never know...could find the guy that sets your world back to a balanced place where you feel good about yourself.

I am sure you have local dating services, but they also have online services like the eharmony. Check them out by clicking on the link below:

eHarmony #1 Trusted Singles Online Dating Site ? More than Personals

If that seems to be too much at this time then you may also want to consider joining a local/community cooking class or any other type of community class that gets you out and being with real people! I've always found that surrounding myself with positive people makes things better in the long run!

Like to run? Join a running club. Like books...a book club is great! I can think of tons more stuff! The point is to get out and find people that make you smile!

I am glad to chat if/when you want. I'm in and out all day!

Wishing you the best...

Mark

IHi MARK, thanks 4 red my message thank you 4 you advise , everything you said are right things to help in my way , thanks again :):):)

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Originally Posted by massplumber2008

Hi Just the life...

Sounds like you did some good things if you ask me...;) Now, if only you could feel better about yourself! I say you concentrate on your children and ignore everyone else at this time in your life. Your children are, after all, the most special gifts you can have in this world!

With that in mind I would also suggest that you go and join a dating service...that's right I said a dating service. I don't necessarily mean for dating/long-term relationship but moreso for friendship/companionship!

In my opinion, the nicest thing about a dating service is that you can date as often as you like...the guy usually pays (but not always) and worst case, the date is a dud...best case you make a friend or maybe more. Never know...could find the guy that sets your world back to a balanced place where you feel good about yourself.

I am sure you have local dating services, but they also have online services like the eharmony. Check them out by clicking on the link below:

eHarmony #1 Trusted Singles Online Dating Site ? More than Personals

If that seems to be too much at this time then you may also want to consider joining a local/community cooking class or any other type of community class that gets you out and being with real people! I've always found that surrounding myself with positive people makes things better in the long run!

Like to run? Join a running club. Like books...a book club is great! I can think of tons more stuff! The point is to get out and find people that make you smile!

I am glad to chat if/when you want. I'm in and out all day!

Wishing you the best...

Mark

In my hole life I truyed to do things and help others and it never could help myself end the friends of mine use to say if we see you we got all the luck in the day , I mean I bring luck to others but not for myself : Why is that?? Thank you :) :):)

Things you mention are in the past now. Dwelling on the past will not help you in any way.

Now, you are working toward a new future for you and your children. Take some of the luck you've brought to others and use some of it for yourself.

The first step is to go join a gym... find a walking buddy... join that cooking class I mentioned earlier, etc. Make one big positive change in your life that you recognize as helpful or joyous and just keep moving forward.

The hardest part is the first step... gets easier after that... I promise!

Mark

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Originally Posted by massplumber2008

Things you mention are in the past now. Dwelling on the past will not help you in any way.

Now, you are working toward a new future for you and your children. Take some of the luck you've brought to others and use some of it for yourself.

The first step is to go join a gym....find a walking buddy...join that cooking class I mentioned earlier, etc. Make one big positive change in your life that you recognize as helpful or joyous and just keep moving forward.

The hardest part is the first step...gets easier after that...I promise!

Mark

Thank you Mark , u advices are good ones , I still am on the beging of the crises :confused: for my life but I will look in to bright side. Thanks again