Is Silence A Good Choice??
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I and my boyfriend(maybe ex now) have had a long distance relationship for almost 3 years. At 1st everything was great, we chatted and emailled and everything everyday, for 3 yrs, but I always feel unfulfill, jealous, angry, sometimes for no reasons at all. WE always want to be together but for some ty conditions, we cant! WE tried several times but we failled. Recently I broke up with him since l saw no future, he begged me for coming back and had a perfect plan for this XMAS, but unfortunately, my parent didn't allow me to come to him. They required his parents to write them a letter. His parents faced culture difference in writing it, so it took them a long time. I was impatient and couldn't wait any longer. I gave up everything and told him that he was just a LOSER! He was shocked and didn't say anything. I thought it was just a normal fight between us (we argued so often) but actually it was not. He didn't show up for about 10 days. I was frustrated, l contacted to him, he answered right away, but he said he had to think about us coming back together. 4 days later, we talked again, and he said he wanted to be together but he saw NO WAY, and that my family hates him ( my parents even wanted to send me away from him forever and forbid me to contact him), and that l was sooo childish (we are 11 years different, lm 20, he's 31 and I give him love when l want, l act cold when l don't want him), he can't survive with my insanity and unstability. I confronted, we had another argument. It went nowhere. I was hopeless. I went offline.
It was strange when after that he had some weird action. He went online then offline right away, and did it almost everyday. I didn't know what it meant but I never contacted him since l had nothing to tell him (but l still want to talk to him). One day, he message me and we talk casually, he said he still thinks about me. I saw this conversation would lead to nowhere so we ended up being half-way, not friends but not lovers! He said now he only wants to work and buys his parents a house then makes as much money as he can, all for his career.
WE don't talk again, he disappears now, l do too. But when lm all alone, l realized how wonderful he is, I want him back but I never want to beg him or anything since he is the one who broke up with me.
I want to send him a present for Xmas but lm afraid he might think lm freaky since when we were in love, he gave me a lot of gifts but l never ever gave him anything even in his birthday or occasion.
I intent to keep silent and no contact as l visit this website with hope of him figuring out his love for me himself. Will silence be a smart choice to get him back?? GUYS HELP ME!!
Some wise people tell me what to do!
I had a long distant relationship of 3 years. We're in different countries. He always came to visit me every year when he had a chance. We talked, chatted with each other once or twice a day. Although we had some fights and stuff but it was OK since he knows I am too young and childish compared with him.
Last year he couldn't visit me so he asked me to visit him and his family to go to the next step of the relationship (since we talked so much about future and stuff), my mom didn't let me go so I didn't go. We had a huge fight, l called him names, we broke up. I found myself ty to call my darling names so I appolozy, I discussed with him about things, he said if I don't want to come to visit him and his family then there is NO WAY we can be together. I felt hurt and we really broke up. I didn't want to cause him pain (because I did it pretty much since I was so childish, sometimes I just get angry out of nothing at all).
I didn't contact him for months. Its about 8 months since we officially broke up. He still cares and loves and misses me as he said so. He sent me emails, ecards on every special occasion. BUt yet again he is still in half-way: not really getting back together, not normal friends. I asked him why, he said our situation is still really hard, we're still in different countries. I was fed up. I told him to meet someone else and forget me and I'm really glad to see him having new girlfriend but he just said "i dont want anyone else, noone is as great as you".
Lately (2days ago), he sent me a huge parcel with full of presents, very meaningful, a ring, rocks that he took at the top of ROcky Mountain when he went to it... and many other things. But I don't know, I don't really feel eager to receive these. I don't know what to do, why everything is still in half-way, I hate it. Even though we just chat casually sometimes, but it still drops me hope but I hate waiting.
Someone tell me what to do, should I ask him directly what is going on? Or just like this?
